He got it!!!

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He got it!!!
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Mon, 04-12-2010 - 5:20pm

If I had any gymnastic abilities I would probably be doing cartwheels right now. DH has officially been accepted into UCLA!!! We are SOOOOO excited!!! I'm a little nervous in that I've never lived outside of Oklahoma, much less California, so it will definitely take some getting used to. But we are both ready for a change.

BTW, any teachers, if you have suggestions for how I can gently break the news to my students. A couple of them already know, but there are a couple that I know have gotten somewhat attached to me as their case manager so I really hate to let them down. Trying to think of the best time and situation to tell them without causing any major meltdowns for anyone....I do know there will be tears for me. These are HS SPED students by the way, one of them is prone to anxiety/low self-esteem so I'm most worried about breaking the news to him.

Oh, and anybody who has ever moved out of state: I would greatly appreciate any suggestions you have. I know it's do-able, I'm just trying to figure out the logistics of everything.

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Registered: 04-09-2008
In reply to: ruthieb85
Mon, 04-12-2010 - 5:35pm

CONGRATULATIONS!!! That's awesome!

I don't have any hints about helping your students, but I do have a suggestion about moving (and it's a bit anal-retentive):

Start packing early - and then number/label the boxes and keep a spreadsheet of what is in each box. That way, you will know where to find your stuff when you're looking at a pile of boxes in California and wondering where to start.


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Registered: 09-08-2007
In reply to: ruthieb85
Mon, 04-12-2010 - 5:35pm

Ruthie--YAY!!

As far as your students go, as long as you are not moving before the end of the year, I would wait until much closer to the end of the year to tell them. I feel like in June, everyone gets sentimental and excited, and sort of knows the school year is ending and things will change. So this will be one more change for them. If you tell them now it might be harder to accept it . . .

Also, I think making them some kind of a card and maybe a picture with you and them together (maybe you could have a coworker take pics like this but make up a different reason for it) might give them "something to hold on to", and also in the card you could write about how special they were to you, how much you will miss and think of them, etc.

Also I think in general when you tell them, just focus on how this is a good thing for DH but that you will miss them so much, and you hope to come back and visit (even if you have no intention to, this hope of seeing you again might be exactly what some of them need), and that you are really sad to leave them but you know they will do great etc.

Advice for moving--well, I don't know what Oklahoma is like, but CA is WAY WAY different than CT. Especially LA. Be prepared for EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING you touch to be effected by the glamness and superficiality of Hollywood. Try to get involved right away with groups of people that have similar values to you (I don't know what you are into, but for me, something like a hiking club, yoga club, etc). You are going to need a way to meet people you relate to, so start thinking now of who these people might be.

With this being said, be prepared that culture shock is normal. When you first get there, you are going to be looking for people and places that "feel" familiar and home-like. You might find some good friends but mostly, nothing is going to make CA into OK. The sooner you can "let CA be CA" the better off you will be. Start looking right away for the things you love about it, and acknowledge the differences without trying to compare (if it is possible).

Mostly, give yourself time and space to adjust without feeling like something is wrong if you are "shocked" and feel homesick at first. Eventually you WILL find home, again, there. But be prepared that it might take awhile before you feel normal again.

Geez not to be all depressing but moving that far away IS hard, and my best friend who moved from CT to outside LA had a really hard time--my Mom who moved from CA to CT ALSO had a really hard time though. On the other hand, I have had friends move to different states and LOVE it, and you may very well LOVE it and never look back!! But it might take you awhile, and that is normal and okay.

Anyway, CONGRATS AGAIN to DH! SO exciting!

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In reply to: ruthieb85
Mon, 04-12-2010 - 7:13pm

Woohoo!!!!!!!!!!! Congrats!! That is super exciting!! What a fabulous, exciting change! Let me be the first Californian to say "come on over, make yourself at home!!" :)

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In reply to: ruthieb85
Mon, 04-12-2010 - 7:26pm
Congrats Ruth!! Thats so exciting! The other ladies gave you good advice so just sending you good thoughts and smooth moving vibes!

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Registered: 03-08-2008
In reply to: ruthieb85
Mon, 04-12-2010 - 7:58pm

Woohoo!!! I'm so happy for you! At least now you don't have to worry about your giving notice deadline!

I agree with Adrienne to try to wait to tell your students until later in the year. I also think that really emphasizing that it is for your DH that you are leaving is important too- so they don't think that you necessarily want to leave.

I have to say though, not EVERYONE is obsessed with the entertainment industry! I could really care less, as could most of my friends. Although, I did grow up here and got used to seeing celebrities on a regular basis and evening having some friends become 'famous.'

If there is anything I can do to help, please let me know. While I live outside of LA (not even in LA county), I have lots of friends who still do and might be able to give advice about neighborhoods to live in and such. I think I already gave you the website to look for teaching jobs.

Also, I have a really good reproductive urologist for you-- he's one of the top 4 in southern CA and fairly close to UCLA.

I'm so happy that you have this all settled! What a great feeling it must be!















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Registered: 12-17-2007
In reply to: ruthieb85
Mon, 04-12-2010 - 8:10pm

What great news! I've moved from Kansas to California and then from California recently to New Jersey, so I'm all over the major moves. Let me dig into my barrel of advice...

1. Enjoy it! It'll be a major change, but also really fun to get to explore a new place. I was in Northern California, but I know that coming from Kansas, it was really fun to have a lot of stuff to go do and new things to see (not to mention the awesome weather). And it was fun to have visitors and show them around!

2. It'll be different, but like Andi said, not THAT different. Go in with an open mind and I'm sure you'll find people/places you love.

3. This is probably the most important: Try to get involved and meet people. My DH had a job from day one, but since I was working from home, most of the people I met were through him. You'll hopefully meet people at work, but if you have to look for a job for a bit, try to get out and make friends outside of DH's. They won't be like your OK friends, but it's nice to have those connections in a new place.

Good luck with the move...and if you have any specific move-type questions, feel free to email me!

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In reply to: ruthieb85
Mon, 04-12-2010 - 10:10pm
That's awesome!!! Congrats! I know you were hoping he would get into UCLA!!








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In reply to: ruthieb85
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 9:21am
Congrats .. that is wonderful news .. thanks for sharing and WTG to your Dh! What is he studying?!
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In reply to: ruthieb85
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 9:48am
YAY CONGRATS!!!!

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In reply to: ruthieb85
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 11:42am

Congratulations!


I'm not a teacher and have never moved out of state, so I'm no help with your questions.


Good Luck and good job to DH!

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