How did/do you know you're ready for another baby?

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How did/do you know you're ready for another baby?
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Tue, 04-24-2012 - 10:13am

Yesterday I was looking through some of Mason's drawers and I found one of his size 1 diapers.

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Right before we TTC #1 and again before #2, the sight of pregnant women and newborns made me cry!

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I think for me it was just the feeling that I was ready for another, I don't know how to explain it. Probably closer to that I was ready to endure labor again enough to have another!!

I ran across some of my boys' newborn items the other day, it's incredible to see how tiny it all is. I so miss those days, but it's been so cool to see them grow and mature :)

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DH was ready for another the day we came home. For me, it just seemed right to give Peter a sibling. The panic about can we handle this didn't set in until AFTER the positive test.
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Like Melissa said, I just can't explain it but I just feel "ready" for #2. It also helps that Selin will be over 3 by the time #2 comes and most likely potty trained. She's already pretty independent.

I'm just about done with my goal of finishing grad school and really the only reason we're waiting a few more months is to have a spring baby so I can have summer + a few months off school. Other than that, we'd like to have a bigger house but we can manage with 2 kids in the house we're in now as the market is not ideal for us to sell right now.

I'm sure the panic of OMG, how are we going to handle two? will set in after the BFP, as Liz said. ;-)

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Like Liz, I have a husband who is ready to go as soon as we get home. He told me while still pregnant with Jensen he wanted 5 kids and now that we have 3 in 2 goes he's trying to negotiate for us to be the next Duggars! He seriously said to me the other night we should just keep going. My mom says he seriously scares her when he says things like that lol!

Like everyone has said it's a feeling. It's not anything to do with what stages my kids at for me. It's more like I look at them and I love them SO much but I just know I have more love to give. It really is hard to explain the literal ache I get in my chest when I see friends pregnant. I do think part of it this time has to do with my losses. I was ready to wait before they happened but it's not just that I lost them, it's that when I found out I was pregnant I was happy and excited. And that surprised me because I didn't think I would be so soon! So now it's hard to imagine NOT having another baby knowing that I really do indeed want more kids.

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Honestly, I never had a "Baby Fever" feelings like some other girls. In our case, we always knew that we wanted to give Fede a little brother or sister, and we simply waited until I felt ready to go through another pregnancy.

We also feel that we would like to have a third child down the road, but next time I think we will wait TTC until Julia is at least 2yo, so when baby #3 arrives she's almost 3yo.

But you know... all of this is just planning, God changes your plans all the time, so we are open to that.

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I didn't feel ready for another until after David turned 2. But unfortunately it took some convincing of my husband and he didn't want them any closer than 3 years apart.

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I felt ready quite a few times over the past few years. I think it really hit me when my daughter self weaned at 16 months. I realized that I wanted to give her a sibling and now that she was increasingly more independent it was time. Well that was a year and half ago. And DH has been soooo set on NO sibblings. Last summer it hit me hard. I had SEVERAL of the girls from my first playgroup get pregnant or have babies. I wanted soooo badly to be going through that but it was still not the right time for DH. So we tabled the discussion until June of this year. I had all but given up that we just werent going to have more. I even attempted to sell off the baby things I was saving for #2. DH saw this and immediatly told me he had been thinking about wanting another for the past few months and really wants to start trying ASAP! :-)

Of course at first I was a little caught of guard and unsure about it but now I am more than ready! I have mirena in and need to get an appointment to remove it and then we will be moving into TTC! :-)

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Welcome, Mandy!  Your daughter is gorgeous!  I'm so happy that you're ready to TTC.  It's nice that DH is finally on board.

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