How far apart did you space your children?
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|Sat, 04-06-2013 - 1:19pm|
My son is only 3 1/2 months and immediately after his birth I thought I was done (that was the recovery talking). Then within two weeks, I said I could do it again because he needs a sibling. Now, I'm thinking three. However, if my next is another boy, then I'd be done anyway because I don't want three boys. If it's a girl, it'll leave it more open to having a third because then I'd already have one of each. DH would be perfectly content with just two, but he knows I want three and is okay with having three.
I know it's way too soon to even be thinking about this, but I'm going to be 29 in July, so I feel kind of pressured to have them closer together rather than further apart because of my age. The soonest I'd want to try again is when my son turns one. Ideally, I'd like to space the next kid to be about three years apart from Ricky (so trying when he's two), but since I'm not sure if I want two or three (I'll have to see how it goes with two and it depends on the gender) and with my age, I feel pressured to have one sooner. I know the older you are the higher your chances are with abnormalities and it's harder on the mom phsyically. I am a SAHM right now and Ricky is not yet sleeping through the night, so I'm exhausted. I was wanting to space them three years apart and have the next one by the time I'm 31 then 34 if we wanted a third. DH is two years older than me and I don't think he'd want to have a baby at 36. Right now, we're still able to live our lives like before by just packing the baby around with us. We've been together for 12 years and married for 4 this year, so it's important to us to maintain our life before baby (as best as we can).
How far apart did you space your children? Did you find it easier or harder spacing them closer or further apart? How did your life change with each kid? How old (if you don't mind my asking) were you when you had your children?