I don't even know what ot think...

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I don't even know what ot think...
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Thu, 01-13-2011 - 8:23am
My brother sent me this (along with a very rude comment about how chinese mothers are f** up), I can't stop thinking that this borders on abuse, but on the other hand, it may be true that western parents are "too soft" sometimes. What do you think? http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754.html

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Tue, 01-18-2011 - 7:48pm

Thanks for posting that, Emmy.

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Tue, 01-18-2011 - 7:32pm

One of the daughters from the original article wrote a response:

http://www.nypost.com/p/entertainment/why_love_my_strict_chinese_mom_uUvfmLcA5eteY0u2KXt7hM






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Tue, 01-18-2011 - 3:10pm
"ask me again in 20 years if i still feel the same way, lol. my opinions are pretty strongly formed for someone who has not actually raised a child as of yet"

This is why I love you, Carly! LOL :)
I was reading this and thinking I feel this way now, but I don't know what its like to have an elementary school age child...

-Suzie :)

 

 

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Tue, 01-18-2011 - 11:02am
I skimmed it as well and didnt care to read it anymore than that.

Yes some Western moms are soft and I think our culture of me me me and required self-esteem has fostered some seriously narcissistic and emotionally stunted individuals. However, to go to the other extreme is also ridiculous in my opinion.

Kids need to be kids for sure and I hate that everything is a competition, scheduled to the extreme and too many parents use their kids to brag about themselves and their so-called wonderous parenting ability. Too many parents are lazy and afraid of their kids too. I am raising an adult, not a child. By that I mean, I'm raising someone to be healthy, independent, intelligent in all realms not just book smarts, full of values and morals, and productive in their society.

One can foster greatness in their children without forcing the unattainable benchmark of perfection. I have high but reasonable expectations for myself, my family and my kids. And I friggin love my flaws sometimes because they make me human and its great fodder for laughs. I would never want to be perfect in every way and certainly dont strive to make my kid perfect either. I take myself too seriously sometimes which makes me slightly neurotic at times and its nice to be reminded that its ok to be imperfect.

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Mon, 01-17-2011 - 7:56am

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Sun, 01-16-2011 - 6:56pm

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Sun, 01-16-2011 - 5:04pm

ask me again in 20 years if i still feel the same way, lol.



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Sun, 01-16-2011 - 4:58pm

i agree to an extent that western parenting is too soft.



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Sun, 01-16-2011 - 3:19pm

My DH sent this article to me the other day with a note about how he thought it was crazy.

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Sun, 01-16-2011 - 1:09pm
unicorn21 wrote: he actually came in to work the next day with a letter from his dad beratting the company and defending his son! WOW.

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