I don't want to go

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Registered: 02-26-2008
I don't want to go
Tue, 11-23-2010 - 8:36pm

Some of you know that DH and I are leaving for Canada tomorrow night and I really really don't want to go. In fact I think I am making myself sick with worry. Something in my gut is just telling me it's going to be a crappy trip and I don't want to do it. I don't know if it's just because I am nervous about the weather (we are supposed to get freezing rain and snow the entire day and night tomorrow and it's supposed to be SUPER cold - highs in the single digits up there) or if it's because we will be taking our first long trip (8 + hours) with the little one or what but I don't want to go.

I had a breakdown on Sunday morning that I didn't want to go. I am not looking forward to pumping in the car with my IL's there, I will have to do it at least 2 times if not more. I don't want to deal with the cold and the baby. I don't want to deal with the weather. I am worried she is going to be over tired. I screwed up with her prescription and I thought I ordered it from our mail order prescription company in time, but unless it shows up tomorrow (which I don't think it will) we won't get a new bottle of her reflux meds until monday afternoon and she is almost out. she is supposed to get 2 ml a day and we have just less than 10, probably only about 8ml left. I feel like such a bad mom. I am worried about her sleeping - she normally sleeps in her swing and we can't bring that up because there isn't enough room in the vehicle, so she is going to have to sleep in her PNP or her car seat and I just don't know if she is going to be able to do it.

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Tue, 11-23-2010 - 9:18pm

Hey Jess - I would totally feel the same way! That's a long trip to be cooped up with the IL's, especially with a little baby and needing to pump and such. Then, to deal with the cold without all the comforts of home (like the swing she sleeps in), AND deal with all the relatives - ugh. I mean, I just had the IL's visit last week and it was stressful - and that was just two people! Evan was constantly being held and didn't rest/sleep properly during the day, which made him harder than usual to deal with at night.

I'd tell DH your concerns, just so he knows your mentality going in to the trip and isn't surprised when you're upset or crabby about something. Try to make sure you and Gabby are getting some down time away from people each day - take a nap together, or go into a different room to feed her just to make sure she's getting some rest. And don't feel bad for telling people she needs to sleep/rest and not be in people's arms all day long.

I hope it goes better than you expect. (((hugs)))

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Registered: 03-08-2008
Tue, 11-23-2010 - 9:39pm

I'm totally with you and wouldn't want to go either.

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Tue, 11-23-2010 - 10:43pm

(((HUGS))) Jess!

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Registered: 02-26-2008
Tue, 11-23-2010 - 11:06pm

Emmy & Alyssa - Thanks so much, it helps to know that I am not alone. I have pretty much made myself sick over this and I am trying to just suck it up. The little one was really crabby tonight so that didn't help and I am fighting a stomach ache & headache plus trying to get everything done.

DH was a dream tonight, he was working at his 2nd job which is just starting up and he came home and threw in a load of peanut's laundry, did the dishes and the bottles so I have them ready to go for tomorrow. So nice! I finally got peanut down around 9:45 - probably the easiest I have gotten her down ever. I fed her, she fell asleep, I changed her, she stayed asleep, through the swaddle and walking upstairs. I went to rock her but she was out so I put her down and she has been down for about 20 minutes now. I can't believe it. Hopefully she will sleep until 2 or so. I am off to bed soon.

I will let you ladies know how it goes on Sunday when I get back!

Thanks again!

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Wed, 11-24-2010 - 8:27am

I agree with Ella that you should try to keep a positive attitude. I was very nervous when we drove 17 hours to Canada with Selin and she ended up doing great!

I also think it's important to stick to her nap schedule and normal routine as much as possible and this may mean being firm and direct with overbearing relatives. We were at a different relative's house every night for dinner and when Selin was ready to go home, she let everyone know, lol, and we just said our goodbyes and headed back to our hotel for the night.

I think you said you're driving at night which should help a lot. We brought a few pacis for Selin for in the car and dressed her in loose clothing and made sure the temperature was right.

Relax, have fun and on Sunday, hopefully you'll look back on this and laugh!


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Registered: 10-15-2001
Wed, 11-24-2010 - 8:28am

I know you're worried and anxious.

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Wed, 11-24-2010 - 11:42am

I don't know if you'll get this before you leave - but first of all I wanted to send you some big hugs!


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Registered: 02-26-2008
Wed, 11-24-2010 - 12:54pm

Thanks ladies I am feeilng much better about it. I had a rough night last night. Gabby slept great in her crib (YEAH) until 2:30 then I fed her (from both sides, I don't normally do that, but she seemed hungry) and then after getting her changed and all swaddled again,she spit up all over me. I was changing her and had a breakdown, just tired and emotional.

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Wed, 11-24-2010 - 1:25pm

HUGS!!! I know just how you feel.

We took Ry up to Michigan one January (12ish hour drive) when he was about Gabby's age to see DH's grandma and it was about as horrendous as I thought it would be. I had a panic attack the morning we left because I just knew it would be terrible. Sure enough, pumping in the car every 2 hours was a nightmare, we got stuck in the snow and had to stay overnight in a hotel we could not afford, and when we got there, DH's grandma kept the house so hot Ry was crying all the time he was so hot. He was up most of the night, and then DH's grandma got offended (apparently, I never heard it from her, just from MIL like a year later) because I had to lay in the spare room and nap with him during the day since we were co-sleeping and he wouldn't nap on his own and because I had to go in the bedroom to pump every 2 hours, so I didn't spend much time with her. Also, she kept forgetting Ry's food allergies and made literally NOTHING that I could eat so I lived the entire weekend on a big bag of tortilla chips I had brought with us.

Sweet memories...

Anyway, wishing you a much, much better trip! Hugs and hopefully the weather cooperates, Gabby sleeps and all is well!

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Wed, 11-24-2010 - 1:36pm