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|Mon, 07-26-2010 - 1:56pm|
Some of you already know Dh and I have been having some marital issues here for awhile .. while my kids are staying with my mom until we can sort things out. I don't want to put them threw seeing mommy & Daddy fight ..
So We sat down to talk to my mom yesterday about things and I haven't talked to her in about 7 months (we are on very bad terms, I think most of you have heard that before though!) She's so judgmental and pushy sometimes and She was being TERRIBLE yesterday!
she just laid into me yesterday about how bad of a parent I am .. how I have abandoned my family (meaning her side of the family) since I don't participate in family events thats why nobody wants to talk to me. ect. etc. blah blah blah ... And THEN .. Dh drops the bomb that HE wants the kids to go to school up by my moms house until we sort everything out. So they would be moving in with my MOM!
OMG! Are you kidding me? First of all I talked to Dh numerous times BEFORE my mom got there so we would be on the same page about telling her that we were separating etc. and he NEVER mentioned this. I was so Pissed! I can't even explain to you how bad it felt to have that bomb dropped on me. I felt totally blind sided. :( I really don't even know where to go from here. I do not want to be separated from my kids again. WE had to do that at the end of last year when I was hospitalized for my surgery and such ... and it was terrible. I just feel like everybody thinks I am the worst mother and they are trying to get me out. I have like nobody on my side! :(
It was really terrible I didn't even end up talking to them the entire time because I was so upset and crying hysterically and it was one of those from the bottom of our soul cries it was awful! :(
So it went about as bad as it could have gone. :(
I called a lawyer today and I have an apt. tomorrow. I am going to talk to them about a possibly divorce and I have one other thing to check into about international custody laws. I can't believe this is all happening and how quickly! Somedays I think it would be better and maybe Dh and I would really have a chance if we just moved to Peru and left all my family drama behind. That has become a strong consideration for me lately .. but I am still hesitant. It will be interesting to see what the lawyer has to say about the international laws.
Any advice or spare thoughts or prayers you may have would be appreciated! Thanks ladies!
oh .. and some of you may have noticed I suspended my FB account. (I will be back .. no worries!) But I am in need of a FB break right now with all this family drama going on! I needed a couple key people to think I dont have a FB anymore so I can sneak in the middle of the night and block them then re-instate my FB! lol