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|Tue, 10-11-2011 - 8:26am|
I think I've posted before about how DH is miserable in his current job. He makes really nice $$, and I think that's the only reason he is still there, but he doesn't get along with most of his coworkers (wich is weird, because he usually is on excellent terms with everyone), and also the job he does doesn't appeal to him intellectually. He doesn't complain much, but when we really talk about it, he's said how much he hates it.
Last week, an old friend of him came to town, and we invited him for dinner. He spent the whole night bragging about this great job he has, and when Mati gave him the ride back to the hotel, he offered him a job there. We are talking about a job in an oil field in the middle of nowhere... He would be 3 hours from the nearest city, and 12 hours from our city. The job doesn't have the option of relocating the family, so the next "best thing" is a 7/7 regime (7 days in the oil camp and 7 days at home). Of course, the seven days at home are not really 7, because he would lose 24 hours traveling here and back. On the positive side, the pay is awesome, and the job is kind of his dream job. He has the chance to make a great career in the oil industry.
I really HATE the idea with all my soul! I don't care about stupid money, I want my husband near and my kids to have their father at home every night. In a few months I will have a new born baby and a toddler to handle... I just can't really imagine taking care of them all by myself! I know single moms do it every day, but I DO have a husband, so he should be there, KWIM??? Perhaps if it was a temporary thing, I would make an effort for him. But we are talking about an entire career like this! (Not to mention that those camp sites a full of lonely men, casinos and yeah, "that kind of women".... I trust my husband, but to have him living there all the time is too much, even for my trust!!!!!)
What drives me crazy is that I've always tried to be supportive with him, but this time I just can't! It's like a lose/lose situation. If I could be super supportive and tell him "go ahead", but I KNOW I would be resentful inside and I fear the effect of that in our relationship. Since I said no, I fear he will blame me forever if his job situation doesn't improve soon. So I told him I really wasn't on board with it. To be true, he wasn't convinced either... The family factor weights a lot, but he also fears this kind of opportunity won't happen again for him. I swear, between this and my sister, I'm so stressed I could scream!!!!!!