Job situation - thoughts?

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Job situation - thoughts?
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Fri, 12-17-2010 - 12:25am

(Sorry, it's long!!)

So I have this situation at work I'm trying to figure out... and I've spent A LOT of time thinking about it and my answer changes every day. DH is supportive, but no help because he says "whatever you decide is fine..." I talk to different friends and get vastly different opinions, but they've all at least given me some things to think about. So I guess I'm just looking for more perspectives to help me think it through.

So, my job. My job is GREAT right now. I'm at a place where I am very autonomous. 60% of the time I see clients and I have a very stable caseload with longterm clients - set my own schedule, no clinical directors worrying about my work, etc. The other 40% of my work time I do internal audit on other clinician's charts. I set my own schedule for that work as well and can do that work from home. No one ever really knows where I'm supposed to be at any given time, I have tons of flexibility, it's what I would consider easy.

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Fri, 12-17-2010 - 1:08am

Though the job does sound like a great opportunity, the thing I would worry about would not be the regular 'must be there' schedule, but rather the outside work that might come along with this promotion.

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Fri, 12-17-2010 - 1:20am

I would stay in the job you are in now, especially if you are planning on just focusing on your private practice in the not too distant future. You are having twins... This is amazing and wonderful!!!... and they are going to take a lot of your time! Even if you have the absolute easiest babies ever,

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Fri, 12-17-2010 - 6:14am

Andi - I'm with Ash. Since I became a mum, I appreciate the flexibility and family-friendliness of my company a LOT more. Those are the things that really count. With twins you will have it doubly hard (not meaning to sound scary); and you have to "plan" for lots of days that you'll have to take off because one of them is ill. It will be so much easier if you have a flexible work schedule, even if it's over 5 days.

As you say the pay rise wouldn't be THAT big, and your DH might be making more money then anyway; so if the money's not crucial to you I would discard that as a factor.

I also understand your dilemma about wanting/not wanting to tell them and possibly going on maternity leave early in a new job. I had a similar situation: My boss talked to me about re-structuring the office and how she would like me to take on a bigger role, when I was just 5 weeks along. So I did tell her I was PG as it just didn't feel fair to let her make these plans, when she'd have to throw them all over a few weeks later. I guess if you're in a good relationship with your employer it is only fair to be open with them as you don't want to "harm" the company.

Anyway, just my two pence! I guess a bit of it also depends on the sort of person you are - will you go nuts "just being a mum" and need your career; or will you be happy to take a step back from work and concentrate more on your children to start with?

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Fri, 12-17-2010 - 7:00am

I agree with Ash..

I think you should stay in your current job. The most important reason is that having two babies you will LOVE the flexibility of your current job.

The other reasons are also important... needing to tell about the pregnancy sooner that you want, the coming materity leave, and the very real possibility of leaving the job anyways in the near future... Probably if you do tell them about the pregnancy, they will hire someone else... But if you don't and then go on mat. leave and after that quit to start your own practice, you'll probably leave an unprofessional impression on your employers.

I understand aboput the prestige and the increased pay... but I think all the good reasons are in favor of keeping your current job.

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Fri, 12-17-2010 - 9:50am

Just from the tone of your post, I don't think you think it's worth it.






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Fri, 12-17-2010 - 12:19pm

Thanks ladies...your thoughts are really helpful.

Kate - I think you're right, part of the reason I'm hesitating is that the job itself isn't what I love... I'd have clients, but very few. Maybe two. Although that's not that appealing to me, it might be kind of nice to not be around clients when I have brand new little ones at home... I've heard that emotionally it's pretty hard for a new mom to work with our clientele (with the kid clients there tend to be lots of CPS reports, working with child abuse trauma, etc.) plus I'd rather not be around all the germies that the kids bring in. The manager job would definitely be more administrative but the work wouldnt be in addition to clients. And I would be clinically connected because I'd be supervising 5 therapists and discussing clinical issues with them. But still, bottom line I'd probably actually like the work I do now better than I'd like the work I'd do as a manager.

Anna - I would definitely be honest with them, even earlier than I'd like to, if it came to that. Even if I don't apply I feel like I'm going to need to talk to the clinical director to explain why. Makes me realize that either way I'd better start preparing to have that conversation.

Emmy - you might have hit the nail on the head... I don't know that I think it's worth it. The extra money would be nice, but it's not imperative. It would probably be more helpful in the short run, but when I look at the big picture, I lean toward staying in my current position. DH is our primary earner and in the long run he'll be bringing in what we need and I can work for my own enjoyment and to give us more of a financial cushion, but I'll be the primary caregiver and the most important thing will be my ability to be there as the kiddums need me.

I think the thing that's nagging at me is that I have a history of taking promotions and promoting myself right out of a job because I never end up liking my higher position as much, so I don't stay long-term.

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Fri, 12-17-2010 - 5:55pm

Andi, you've gotten some great replies already, just wanted to throw one more out there :)