My IL's - This is a total whine
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|Thu, 03-25-2010 - 3:29pm|
I am going to start this off that I am not in a good mood and this is a total vent/whine whatever. I am being a big baby and I know it, but for some reason it's really bothering me today.
DH has 1 brother who is 2 years younger than us.I love him to death, he is like a brother to me and I LOVE his wife who is like my sister. They have been dating for a year longer than Mike and I. In May it will be 11 years they have been together and I think it will e 4 that they have been married.
When I met DH we did everything first, got an apt together, bought a car together, a house, got married etc...the only thing they "beat" us to was having a baby - which is fine. Finally they have broken the ground with the IL's before us.
DH's parents from what I can tell have always had the mindset of "If you do something for me you are the good kid". When DH was living at home during the summer or helping out at the cabin all the time, Barrett was the one that didn't get the attention. Well now that DH and I don't have a kid and his brother and my SIL do, it all revolves around them. Which okay I understand...but.... her comes the whine part.
So everytime DH and I make dinner plans with his parents - just his parents and us, and don't mention my BIL or SIL, they go and invite them, or make us invite them. What am I supposed to say, no..they put me in a position and DH in a position where we can't.
Example - today I emailed them and said that we were planning on going to the fish fry on Friday with my friend Jenny and would they want to meet us there, no mention of his brother. as my SIL hates fish. and then my MIL emails me back and says "Sure, Leah works, but Barrett is interested in joining us".
Another example, the IL's took the dog last Wednesday so I emailed my IL's and said I can pick her up on Sunday, let me know if you are going to be around. Never heard from them, then Sunday I called them left them a message, said I would be at BIL's house at 2, and then stopping over to pick her up, let me know if you are going to be around. Never heard from them. I get to BIL's and sure enough FIL is on the phone with BIL asking them if they could stop over with me when I pick up the dog! REALLY!! Why is it that everytime I need to see them, or we want to hang out with them BIL, SIL and now my nice need to be there. I know I am a big baby, I didn't have siblings growing up, so I don't have experience with this, but it irritates the crap out of me.... I have a feeling though that when Peanut is born they won't be stopping over all the time and they will make us drive up to them (Since BIL lives 10 minutes away from IL's).
Okay I am done ranting and whining. if you made it this far thanks for listening.
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