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Thanks so much everyone for your support. Today is a MUCH better day than yesterday - I haven't cried at all! It seems to be every other day or every few days, weird. I'm sure I will have to re-read your posts on Monday but it is such a good feeling to have so much virtual support. :-)
DH and I talked last night and of course he doesn't understand why I was crying or why this is so hard for me (men!) but I just told him that I'm really going to need his support these next few weeks because it's going to be a change for all of us. I know we'll find a new "normal" eventually.
Christine, I am so, so sorry!!! I am thankful every day that I have been able to quit my job and not go back to work, although I know it won't be forever. We are scraping, however that is a lot better than most people in this world get.
I wish you nothing but the best of luck in your continued job search and hope that something comes along soon for you!!! HUGE (((((HUGS)))))!!!!!
ETA: I just read through the rest of the responses, and am glad to hear you are feeling better today! Nonetheless, I am still sending you tons of hugs!
Cassie - I completely agree with your POV regarding the world we have created for ourselves. It sounds so politically incorrect but sometimes I wish the women's lib movenment hadn't happened! LOL. I mean it's great that women are starting to be seen as more equal, but at the same time all these women going to work and making more money for the household eventually drove up the cost of running said household!!!
oh my gosh.... ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) That is truly going to be a really tough arrangement to get used to for everyone it sounds like... hopefully it doesn't take too long for things to sort out. I almost cried reading your post... I am a stay at home mom now and I used to work 2 jobs and barely got to see my baby boy... those times were so tough and traumatizing on me but not on him. He got to play with other kids and i'm sure had fun. All he remembers now is
Well in the end, I ended up doing better than Selin. I didn't cry at all (butwas on the verge of tears a few times this morning). While pumping at work3x/day was somewhat of a PITA, it went very well and I got close to 5 oz totaleach session.Selin, on the other hand, refused to take milk from a bottle/sippy cup/medicinedropper. She would drink from a Dixie cup but my mom said she got more of it onher bib than in her mouth. So she was miserable most of the day and cried forthe last few hours before I came home. As soon as I got home, she nursed for agood 30 minutes.Of course now my parents are worried that we're starving/dehydrating her andthey're putting all sorts of pressure on me to "fix" the situation. I can't upand quit my job right now (even though I'd love to) and I keep telling them thattoday was only the first day and that Selin is not the only baby that has everbehaved this way. They're worried about the other sitters that are going to bewatching Selin and if they're willing to put up with her refusing thebottle/sippy cup.I've also been wanting to introduce solids via the Baby Led Weaning method andmy parents are fighting me on that too. Tonight I convinced them to give herhalf of a banana to hold and she loved nibbling on it. I figure if she gets somenourishment from solids while I'm at work, at least it's better than nothing.Just needed to vent. I feel like it's me against the world right now and justwish my family were more supportive of breastfeeding. I feel like they think ifshe was bottle fed from the beginning instead of breast fed then we wouldn'thave this issue.Thanks for reading...
Stick to your guns! She will adjust and honestly she is so young that she probably would have refused a bottle from the beginning too. Some babies want to feed a certain way. I only breastfed Jensen for a month and he is going to be 7 months in 6 days and he STILL tries to latch on and breastfeed to any woman who holds him. Breast is normal, bottle is not, and all their instincts are telling them to go for the boob. She WILL adjust.
I don't want to be rude but your parents need to butt out and stop trying to tell you how to raise YOUR child. They need to do EXACTLY what you tell them to do concerning her because YOU are the mom. They had their kids, they did their parenting. A grandparents job is to SUPPORT the parents, and love the kid. Not raise the kid, not tell the parent how to parent. I am 21, and my parents haven't made a single comment ever about what I do with Jensen and when I decide to do it. So long as I am not harming him and he is happy and healthy they are going to let me parent the way I want to, because I AM the parent. Honestly, if you want her on solids, start her on solids. I waited until 6 months because that's what felt right for me. If you feel she needs some solids then do it. You do not need your parents permission or approval. All you need is to make sure your little girl is getting some food in her while you are at work.
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I am glad you day went well and I agree with the others, stick to your guns. I was thinking of you yesterday!!
Hang in there, it's only the first day. KUP on how things are going!