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|Tue, 11-24-2009 - 9:59am|
Hey ladies, I need some advice, as a situation with a group of my friends is bothering me..seems pretty lame that I am letting this bother me, but here it is. Sorry its long
I have this group of friends that go out one night a week. We have been doing this since 2003, so awhile now. I used to be the one that sent out the email every week but since an incident this summer at the big camping trip and because of a monthly counseling session on the same night, DH and I haven't been going as much. My Best Friend is also not going because of the incident this summer.
Background on this summer - it's a camping trip that has been happening with the parents of this group of friends since DH was 2 years old. All the "kids"(ppl our age) sit around at the camp fires at night and drink for 3 days. There is usually some skinny dipping that DH used to be involved in, but since his Sex Addiction came out I don't let him and he chooses not to anymore. This past year my good friend and others were in the bar on a Sat night and ended up getting on top of the bar and stripping and walking around topless in the bar. It was inappropriate behavior and I am so glad I wasn't there. My best friend and I have decided that these aren't the kind of people we want to be around all the time.
Fast forward to this past weekend. I chose not to go to this party on saturday because of the above behavior and I was afraid that since it was at my friends house (Who did the stripping) it would happen again. not something I want to be around. Well at that party they decided that they have this week's gathering at our friends house that is closing on her new house today.
Well her sister who is sending out the emails sent out the email that it was going to be at Tricia's house and all this stuff and in the email she said "everyone brings a six pack of beer or so (more that you will drink, so plan accordingly, the leftovers are for Trish, think Honeyweiss) and an item or two of those housekeeping/cleaning items you never think to worry about until you have a house."
I love my friend Tricia and was planning on getting her a house warming gift, but I don't like the feeling obligated to do so. I emailed her sister and said we were bringing a bottle of wine and not sure what else and we would be there. She emailed me back and said "Don't forget the wine opener, she doesn't have one, I am sure! Or some other household cleaner stuff. "
I was going to revolt and just bring the wine & the bottle opener, but I am feeling like if I don't bring anything more that I will be "That person" that doesn't bring anything. i don't want these people talking about DH and I more than they probably already do. So I was thinking of going to get a bottle opener, and some bar glasses and I am refusing to get her cleaning supplies and toilet paper and stuff.
Aarrgghh I hate this kind of stuff.
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