Overwhelmed and exhausted

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Overwhelmed and exhausted
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 3:47am
I am really feeling overwhelmed tonight. Dh was gone working. I picked up SP and had a great night with her. She went down pretty easy and slept for an hour. She woke up screaming her head off as I in pain. So I brought her down stairs to rock her and after walking around for a 1/2 hour fed her again an she slept but only on me. Every time I put her in her in her crib she screamed bloody murder. So we have been sleeping on the recliner and now it's 2:30 in the morning and I am wide awake. Dh gets to sleep but because I am mom I am up with her.

I have a fullday of mtgs again tomorrow at work. I home alone with her again tomorrow night because dh works. She isn't sleeping and I feel like I am an
awful parent because my kid won't sleep in her crib.

Today at day care I found out she was in the walker again- I haven't had the conversation yet because I wanted to talk to dh. Her nose was all snotty and dried on like they hadn't wiped it all day. And they made a comment when i said I saw she ate to feedings of 6oz today that "yeah and she wanted to be held while being fed" I mean don't you normally hold them while feeding. I have gone in there a few times and seem babies not being held. Bit at other timesthey are. I am wondering if the reason she isn't sleeping tonight is because she ate much at once on her back and isn't being burped. Looks like I need to have a conversation. I don't want to wish time wig gabby away. But I really can't wait for march to get here.

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 6:30am
My gut instinct when I started reading this is that she is getting a cold. Which I hope isn't the case, babies can be miserable (and spread their misery) when they don't feel well.

Regardless it does sound like you need a conversation with DC and DH. Just because you are mom doesn't mean Dad can't provide snuggles at night. I would talk to him and if she's up again tonight have him do the walking and rocking.
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 9:03am
Thanks Kate, I think it's a combo of a cold & gas bubbles...DH thinks it teething (But I don't, if it was teething she wouldn't be soothed by just being in my arms). After I posted this I went upstairs and woke up DH and made him take her for awhile. Even though he will do it, he huffs and puffs when he does it and I just wish for once he would just do it without all the attitude.but I got about 1 hour of sleep. He didn't know what to do with her, or where the tylenol was, so I had to find it for him. Gave it to her and fed her and just put her in her crib and she put herself to sleep for about 1 1/2 hours. I am going on about 3 hours of sleep today and I have about 8 hours of meetings today :) Should be fun! I didn't think that it was a cold because normally when she is sick she isn't crying and fussing. she just wakes up a lot, but no crying. But maybe because she has a cough that's keeping her up. I just don't know if I should call the doctor or not with her cough. It doesn't sound dry or like a barking seal and it's not like whooping cough. but she has had it since Saturday so I am thinking I might need to call them to see. I don't want it to turn into RSV or anything.

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 12:12pm
I'm glad you went and woke up Mike.

If Gabby spikes a fever or keeps acting "not herself" I would call. Do they have a nurse you can talk to before making an appointment? That might help some.

Good luck with all your meetings today.
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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 12:17pm
Sorry Jess for the crappy night. I really hope she isnt getting a cold. As for DC, I would have a talk for sure.

I stay at home so I dont wake up DH unless I'm at my wits end which doesnt happen all that often but if we were both working, I would be really pissy about a DH that huffs and puffs about getting up with the baby and expecting me to do all the hard work, especially in the middle of the night. Thats just not fair and its just not teamwork in my opinion. I would have a strong talk with him too. Both parents signed up for the hard stuff including sleep deprivation and a cranky baby, not just mom because shes the mom. Good luck and tons of hugs!

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 1:08pm

Thanks Ladies. I called the nurse line and ended up making an appointment. I got her in at 11 this morning. The poor thing has a double ear infection. When I went to pick her up at daycare I was asking them if she was fussy or anything and nope, she was smiling away - in the walker again. So I plan on having the conversation tonight with them. I felt stupid when i was in the office because she was acting totally like herself, but then when the doctor looked at her ears, yep, both of them had pus behind them. so she perscribed amoxocillin and some drops to help her sleep at night. so hopefully that will help her. Probably why she wouldn't let them feed her laying down yesterday. When I breastfeed her she is at more of an angle. The doc said that's also why she is happy most of the time because it was just starting.

As for DH he did offer in the past to get up with her and I really don't think he minds it, I think it's more that he wants to "fix" the little one and that's his huffing and puffing. He is really good with her 90% of the time :)


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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 4:31pm
So glad you have a cause for her fussiness but poor baby for having an ear infection :( Hopefully its been caught early enough that it wont be too bad for her.

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Thu, 01-20-2011 - 9:05pm
Glad you saw the ped - poor Gabby!

When I was working PT on my dog route, I got up most of the time with Selin because I didn't have to be at work till 11am at the earliest and on some days, DH has to be at a job site as early as 6am. Now that I'm in school FT and also working PT from home, he is helping out a lot more at night and when he can in the morning because we're both gone all day now. Oh and in the early days, he would huff and puff too but now that Selin is so attached to him, he doesn't mind it nearly as much. ;-)