Pacis can hurt your boys emotional development?

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Pacis can hurt your boys emotional development?
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 4:17pm

What are your thoughts on pacifier use?  A new study found that prolonged use in boys (not girls) can hurt their emotional development, because it limits the ability to mimic the facial expressions of others so you don't learn how to read them.  Here is an article talking about the findings:

What I never understand about studies like these is how they can correlate your emotional well being as an adult to one thing from your childhood.  When it comes to my boys, my one that used his paci the longest is probably the most empathetic!  

Do studies like these make you rethink pacifiers?  How long has your child used them for?

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"Correlation is not causation, as others have noted."

Exactly - I just don't buy in to research like this because you can find correlations between anything if you look hard enough.

Evan never really liked the soother until much later actually - at about 10 months he started to love it. He's still on it now, but only for naps/bedtime. When he was a bit younger, he would get upset when other babies/kids are upset. He still gets very concerned about them when it happens, and does the same with mommy/daddy - so I'm not too worried about his emotional development.

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Sat, 09-22-2012 - 10:25pm
I absolutely think it's silly and it comes down to parenting. They must never have had a baby because mine sure make faces under their pacifiers! Jensen took one only for about 3 months. The twins being preemies needed them to learn how to suck and they help prevent SIDS so we give them to them at night when they cosleep. Neither baby is addicted or particularly attached to their pacifier so we're going to get rid of them when they turn 1. They won't be missed by my twiglets. Blake is very expressive, not as much as Elaine, but he sure lights up for me. A pacifier hasn't stopped him from watching my face and taking cues as to my mood. But once more the twins are not super attached so the pacifiers are usually only in at bed time.

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Sat, 09-22-2012 - 6:40pm
DS took one forever. Seriously - I think he was three when we finally kicked it to the curb. He's perfectly able to express himself and read others. He's a compassionate child who willingly puts on pads and a helmet every week to knock the snot out of someone else on a football field.

I think parenting is probably the real issue here.

Jules - Happily married and Momma to DS, DD and expecting our Caboose Baby 11/24/2012

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Sat, 09-22-2012 - 4:49pm
Ehn... Ray took on for about half a second... and he has Asperger's and can't read people's faces and emotions... pretty much the opposite of the study's findings.

Teddy takes one... boarderline addicted. We had been able to cut him back to just in his crib, but he's teething his molars now and likes chewing on them.
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Sat, 09-22-2012 - 2:49pm
Meh. I can't get excited about something like this at all. Correlation is not causation, as others have noted. And one study finding correlation doesn't mean all that much.

I know that the plural of anecdote is not data, but this reminded me of something. The other day my mom called to tell me about a baby boy she was flirting with in line at the supermarket. He had a paci in his mouth and every time she smiled or cooed at him he would shove it over to the side of his mouth and clamp down on it with his gums to beam back at her and then juuuuuuuust as it was about to fall out, he'd suck it back in real quick. And then start over again to smile at her or chuckle when she made faces.

Seems like that particular little boy figured out how to mimic facial expressions just fine!

As far as this baby goes, we'll see. I'm open to using a paci with him, but if he doesn't seem interested, I won't push it and if it seems like it'll impede breastfeeding for any reason, I won't use it. I'm not of the mindset that every single suck of his life needs to be on my boob, but also think comfort nursing is fine/natural/normal. So, we'll see how it goes.


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Sat, 09-22-2012 - 10:07am
I'm with Erica... "hmmm, that's interesting"... but since Jonah gave up his paci on his own at about 6 months and never was all that reliant on it anyway, I don't really think it'll affect him.
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 11:23pm

It does make sense, Ruby.  I still hear people telling their little boys to stop fussing because "boys don't cry."  I hate that!

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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 10:11pm
Zaydren had one shortly after birth to help correct how he sucked. He would only have one for comfort if I was driving, or if he was done eating and just wanted to suck (I had oversupply so didn't need extra stimulation!). He was never attached to it. It was a thing we occasionally used from time to time. He has them in his toy box now and loves to carry one around, occasionally use one to chew on or pop in mouth to get a laugh, etc. If all were to disappear tomorrow he'd never miss it. And he's a very caring child. If he sees someone cry he wants to see why and to see if can comfort. He also loves to give kisses and cuddles and do funny faces.

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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 9:30pm
David never took one. Pretty sure I won't be giving one to this one either as I saw friends struggle to get them to give them up.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 4:27pm
I am fascinated by research. Since taking Research Statistics and Statistical Methods in grad school, I am more interested than ever in how studies are constructed and replicated. Until I know much more about a study and its findings, I pretty much just think 'hmm...that's intersting.' I'm also wary of anything that claims to PROVE something. The best they can do is show a correlation.

As for pacifiers...we don't use them. Jonah had one for about 10 minutes in the hospital just so they could do his newborn hearing screening. I'm not exactly anti-pasi, but I struggled with my milk supply quite a bit with all three kids, so I wanted absolutely all sucking (non-nutritional and feeding) to happen at the breast. Plus, I never trusted myself to be able to take the paci away!