QOTW: Family Planning vs. Reality!

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QOTW: Family Planning vs. Reality!
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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 11:15am

I thought I would try a question of the week (probably not really weekly, but here we go) . . .

Before having any kids, how many kids did you plan to have, and how did you want to space them?

Now that you (have been through TTCing/are pregnant/have a child or several children, etc), have your "family plans" changed? Why?

How many kids do you want to have now and how will you space them?

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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 2:24pm

Before having any kids, how many kids did you plan to have, and how did you want to space them?

we wanted 2, about 3 years apart

Now that you (have been through TTCing/are pregnant/have a child or several children, etc), have your "family plans" changed? Why?

yes they changed pretty dramatically. Now that Little Bird is almost here, we have decided against ever TTC another, but we hope to pursue adoption in another 2 years or so.

How many kids do you want to have now and how will you space them?

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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 3:21pm
Before having any kids, how many kids did you plan to have, and how did you want to space them? 2 kids, 2-3 years apart.

Now that you (have been through TTCing/are pregnant/have a child or several children, etc), have your "family plans" changed? Why? Yes, because I realized I love pregnancy and being a mom so much I don't want to only do it twice.

How many kids do you want to have now and how will you space them? We have agreed to just go until we are done. After this one we will wait 3 years before trying again allowing Rob to finish school for business management. Then we will decide from there what spacings we want.

What are your thoughts on how it worked out? So far it's working out good but baby #2 isn't here yet!

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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 3:26pm

Before having any kids, how many kids did you plan to have, and how did you want to space them?




Thank you for the sig Mary

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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 3:41pm

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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 3:49pm
Before having any kids, how many kids did you plan to have, and how did you want to space them?

3 about 3 years apart

Now that you (have been through TTCing/are pregnant/have a child or several children, etc), have your "family plans" changed? Why?

Not really. We still want 3 and the spacing is still just right for us, but a big factor in whether or not it will happen when we want next time is my job and finances. There is still a year before we would TTC and a lot can change in a year.

How many kids do you want to have now and how will you space them? We still want 3, maybe just 2, we'll see and we will be sticking to the 3 years apart.

What are your thoughts on how it worked out? Well it has worked out well enough in that we adore our son and being parents...but its been challenging for me to be unemployed and trying to find work now that maternity leave is over. Its the age old conflict.....is there ever enough to really be sure we are ready? I could have delayed having my son until I got a permanent job but could have idled in contract hell for 5 years or more, not started a family and had been older than I would have preferred. So I dont regret the choices we have made thus far, I'm just hoping I dont have to make that decision again.

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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 4:03pm

Before having any kids, how many kids did you plan to have, and how did you want to space them?

I had wanted 5... really hadn't thought about spacing.

Now that you (have been through TTCing/are pregnant/have a child or several children, etc), have your "family plans" changed? Why?

I'm getting old.

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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 4:37pm

Before having any kids, how many kids did you plan to have, and how did you want to space them? I always wanted 2-4 biological and if there are step kids thats ok too.


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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 6:23pm


Before having any kids, how many kids did you plan to have, and how did you want to space them?

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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 8:44pm

Before having any kids, how many kids did you plan to have, and how did you want to space them? We never finalized any decision, but said we would see how we felt after one. The most we were considering was three, and spacing would be 2-3 years apart.

Now that you (have been through TTCing/are pregnant/have a child or several children, etc), have your "family plans" changed? Why? Yes - mostly because of suffering a miscarriage, having a tough time with pregnancy, and not being fans of the newborn stage. I guess we feel like we got through all that and it's getting so good now, that we're not sure if we want to go back there.

How many kids do you want to have now and how will you space them?





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Registered: 08-24-2005
Wed, 05-25-2011 - 8:44pm

Before having any kids, how many kids did you plan to have, and how did you want to space them? We wanted 4 kids. 18-20 months apart. We both come from 4 kid families, so it felt like the perfect number

Now that you (have been through TTCing/are pregnant/have a child or several children, etc), have your "family plans" changed? Why? A little. We are leaning towards 3. We would still be happy with 4, but maybe 3 is more realistic for several reasons... We now know how hard it is to go through a pregnancy and raise a child, so maybe 4 is a little too many. We also were not ready for only 18 months between Fede and the next one.

How many kids do you want to have now and how will you space them? We are taking it one child at a time. If after 2 we want another, we will try, and so on.

What are your thoughts on how it worked out?

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