RANT: the inlaws
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|Fri, 08-20-2010 - 10:43am|
I need to vent...
My SIL and DH's grandma are getting on my nerves lately... Well, not lately. Some of this started when I got pregnant. They are so invasive!
SIL: She's one of those "happy people". Always jumping and celebrating and being just a little annoying... ( I know... I'm a bitter old hag). When I got pregnant, she was ecstatic, she bought clothes for the baby and toys, and I thought "she's really happy for us". Then she greeted me every time by grabbing my belly and talking baby talk to it for several minutes, and I thought "this is a little weird". Then she wanted to come to our big reveal u/s, and I thought "it's too much". A few months ago she got PG and I thought she would have her own baby to think of, but no...she seems to have energy for both!!!!! But the other day I got really mad... I was at her place, and went to the bathroom, leaving Fede with her. When I came out I found her with the baby on her lap, she had him wear a head piece with a bright flower and was taking photos!!!! I asked her why and she says "It's just that he has such a pretty hair!! When I have my daughter, I'll do this all the time" and I replied "Yes, do it with your daughter, not with MY SON!"
It may have sounded harsh, but I couldn’t help it!
DH’s grandma: She’s lived in the country for most of her life, so she has a wide “knowledge” of home remedies and folklore that she’s always kind of imposing on me. She’s always “curing the evil eye” on Fede (something I tolerate because it’s harmless), suggesting he is “empachado” (upset liver) and such. Oh, she’s also a former cook, so everything I do in the kitchen is wrong… Every time she come to dinner the following happens… “Oh, you prepare xx that way??, I do it like this, let me show you”
And next thing I know, she’s doing all the cooking and I’m out of my own kitchen!!!!!!! Even DH has realized this, but we don’t want to say anything for the sake of family peace.
And yesterday, she and MIL dropped by. I offered them tea and some toasts. At some point I went to the bathroom and when I came back, Fede was in her lap and she was feeding him an entire spoon of quince jelly. And I told her “oh, don’t give the baby that! I had to scrape a weird fungus of the top yesterday!” (it’s homemade jelly, so it doesn’t have any preservatives) And she answered “oh, it won’t do him any harm” and gave him some more!!! So I took him from her arms and stormed from the room.
It’s just that I’m the mother, she should have asked me before feeding him something. And if I explicitely tell her no, she must stop, right?????? The “#$&% probably would have given him honey if it were on the table!!!
Am I over reacting??