RANT: My Family
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|Mon, 08-23-2010 - 10:25pm|
So I get a call today from my mom, I didn't get to the phone and she left a message. on it she said "Hey it's your mom, I talked to your Aunt....Just give me a call when you get this" and in the background I hear my father saying "Just have her call us" really cranky and yelling almost. So I think, great, something is wrong with my aunt (its the same one that had the double bypass and has the brain aneurysms). So I call her back and apparently my Aunt is all pissed off because my cousin (her daughter) who mind you is 40 (so an adult) wants to come and see Gabriella, but doesn't want to drive an hour if she can't hold the baby....
Some background. DH and I decided when we were doing some research that we weren't going to let anyone who smokes hold the baby in clothes that they smoked in. There are studies that show damage to infants and children because of the toxins that are in the smoke that lingers on couches, clothes etc.
So anyway when I told my mom this back when I was pregnant she mentioned it to my Aunt, who at the time smoked, then she found out about all her issues and quit. My cousin & Her fiance smoke and aren't going to quit (Supposedly, I have heard it so many times before) until after their wedding on Sept 25th. Well my dad got all mad that my mom mentioned it to my Aunt. No one brought it up since then. well now that Gabriella is born apparently my cousin wants to come and visit. Instead of my adult cousin calling me to talk to me about it, she mentions it to my Aunt, who calls my mother and then my mom calls me.
Well I talked with my mom a little later tonight because she could hear I was upset and she says your father thinks you are upset, and I said well of course I am. my cousin is being childish and I am annoyed by it. It's not about her anymore. My aunt doesn't want to upset my cousin because she is getting married in a month, well what about the new mother who is on a hormonal roller coaster who just had a baby. I mean seriously. Stop this passive aggressive crap and just call me.
DH and I are sticking to our rules and aren't letting anyone hold the baby in clothes they have smoked in. Its for the benefit of my child and it's not about just me anymore. I have let my entire family walk all over me all my life and not anymore...
My mom said to not worry about and she was going to tell my Aunt that I wasn't up for visitors, but it's annoying because I feel like she is "Lying" even though I am not feeling up for visitors it still seems like another passive aggressive way to get around the situation...
I am not going to worry about it tonight and just deal with it later....Fun times! Gabby isn't even a week old and it's already starting.
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