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|Mon, 12-28-2009 - 8:14pm|
i'm really sorry to bother you with a personal post like this, but i was hoping you could give me a little advice with my friend...i'd posted about her health problems in the PG section. also not sure if this is the best place to post this, but i couldn't think of anywhere else that you'd see it, since it's not related to TTC or pregnancy directly.
first let me just say that you and your DH are in my prayers that your appointment with the urologist goes well and you can get moving forward...i lurk on the 6+ thread all the time and pray for all you gals to find answers and BFPs sooner rather than later. i also hope you find more clarity on handling discussing IF with your church group and family...i can't offer a lot of real help there other than P&PT, since i'm really a private person myself and wouldn't even know where to begin.
my question is sort of pregnancy-related...my friend is pregnant, due in february, but she had two seizures a couple weeks ago that they're thinking are epileptic. she tells me that the anti-seizure meds they've put her on are only safe because she's so far along in the pregnancy...since her "jr" (as we refer to him) is pretty much formed, just doing his last bit of growing, as she's 34w now, the meds don't pose any threat to him, but if she had gotten pregnant while on them or had to take them earlier on, jr would probably have birth defects because of it. they're not going to find out a whole lot more until after jr comes though...she's scheduled to see and neurologist and get an MRI in march. she apparently had seizures as a little little kid (<3yo) that they think left scarring on her brain.
i guess i'm wondering what your approach to TTC with epilepsy is. i know i might be jumping the gun asking about this when she's got a healthy baby on the way, but i know how sad she is as the prospect that this is the only baby she may have because of this, if she has to be on meds or if pregnancy plus the scarring is what's causing the epilepsy (if it's not purely idiopathic...is that the right word?). is there a drug that's safer for pregnancy (that she can't use right now for whatever reason), or do you have to go med-free?
also, any tips on the best ways to be supportive for her with this condition in general (baby aside) would be greatly appreciated. she gave all of us quite a scare for a little while, and even now we're afraid to think she's out of the woods completely. (her second seizure burst some capillaries in her lungs and she had to be sedated on a respirator for a few days after being airlifted to another hospital.) i know she's really worried too. i'm a private person, like i said, so i have a greater tendency to have one or two really close friends rather than lots of casual ones, and she's the best friend i have (possibly that i've ever had), and i worry for her and want to do right by her.
of course, if i'm being too forward asking about this or if you don't want to answer, i apologize, and of course you don't have to answer if it makes you uncomfortable. i hope i'm not, and again, i'm really sorry if i am, and i don't want you to feel obligated to respond if you don't want to, so i'll understand if i don't hear from you. i think you can email me though my profile if you want too.
thanks ruth, and best of luck to you! i will keep lurking and praying.