SAHM: How to make it happen?

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SAHM: How to make it happen?
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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 11:53pm

Literally ever since I was a little girl, I have wanted to be a

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Thu, 06-03-2010 - 12:10am

Hi Noel! I miss you too! :-)


Thanks so much for the advice. I'm actually planning to leave Selin with DH next Sat. as I have a few appts. to go to and figured I might as well make it a "me" day. DH has also admitted that he probably won't realize how much work it is until he has to do it all by himself. So I'm hoping the day will be enlightening for him.


I will def. check that book out. I am already a pretty frugal person but DH is not and we constantly disagree about how the little things add up.


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Sat, 05-29-2010 - 6:17pm

Hi Christine! Sorry it's been a while. i miss you!


As for your question - you'd be surprised how little income you can live on. When my DH was in school we had a very very little income. It was a fantastic way to learn to be extra frugal. No choice! There are

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Tue, 05-25-2010 - 9:56pm
Thanks for sharing, Erica! Sounds like you've got a great thing going! :-)
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Fri, 05-21-2010 - 8:59am

I think it is wonderful that you want to stay at home.

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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 12:26pm

That sounds like a good plan, Christine! I'm glad you guys are working out something you feel more comfortable with.

In terms of your DH's attitude, I think it DOES need an adjustment!! Someone mentioned sometime that leaving DH's alone with the baby for a whole day can be a real eye-opener for them--taking care of the baby is a FULL time job, cleaning up is a whole other job!

If it makes you feel any better, our house is an absolute mess all the time and I don't have any job or baby--and it sounds like yours is MUCH cleaner.

You go girl.

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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 11:23am

Thanks Kim and Adrienne!


The biggest obstacle (in addition to the whole money issue) is that my DH keeps making comments about me being lazy (mainly, I don't clean the house as much as he would like - our house is always tidy but not spotless, but he's going to work on his attitude with his therapist because I told him it needs to stop)

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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 11:01am

Christine, I just wanted to share a story from my EC. One of the ladies there said that being a SAHM was important to her and her DH, and her first pregnancy was twins. In order to allow her to SAH, they rented a BEDROOM for the twins first year or two of life, and that was their whole living space. It was obviously hard but it had to do with what their priorities are.

I just wanted to point out to you, as others have, that there are options out there, but as Lorien said, really saving money has to do with cutting MAJOR expenses--I'm not sure if you rent or own, but selling your house and getting a cheaper house (or, as Dee pointed out, a mobile home), or moving into a place with a cheaper rent is REALLY what would make this happen for you.

I just wanted to share the story of my EC-friend because PERSONALLY, I couldn't do that--but for you, facing the fact that you do have CHOICES might be really good for you. You aren't FORCED to go back to work, but maybe you would rather go back to work than give up some of the things in your life (like your house), and that is okay, especially considering that SAH might work out a little longer down the line.

(((HUGS)))

Silly Expecting Siggy


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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:32am

I never wanted to be a SAHM - it just wasn't in my plans.

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Wed, 05-12-2010 - 10:13pm

Thanks ladies for all the great suggestions! We are doing a lot of these things already (I'm

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Sat, 05-08-2010 - 4:44pm

ITA with Adrienne, you need a very strict budget and you may have to give up some things you may find essential right now.

We're living on DH's grad student stipend and student loans. When I quit my job, that cut our monthly income by about 1/3, and we weren't paying for daycare before either. It is really tough, but it's what we have to do. Ry has 4-5 appointments a week every week, and it would be impossible to accommodate that schedule if I was still working.

You just look at what you have and what you absolutely need to survive and you make it work. It's hard, and it's not for everyone, but if it's what you want, I believe most people can do it if they are willing to make the big sacrifices.

GL!!!

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