Taking care of yourself

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Taking care of yourself
Wed, 12-12-2012 - 3:22pm

People always say "take care of yourself."  And "you have to take care of YOU."  I get frustrated by this.  It's hard!  So many things and so many people depend on MOM. 

I make sure I eat, and take care of my basic physical needs like brushing my teeth and showering.  I make time for reading a few evenings a week.  Does that mean that I'm taking care of myself?  Sometimes I think 'yes.'  During this season of life, we play a very important role in our family life.  We are going to have to be second (third, fourth, etc.) for a short while.  These years fly.  But then I realize that I haven't actually styled my hair in about four years.  It just sort of hangs there.  Living in Florida, I try to take time to paint my toes, but the same paint stays there for weeks and weeks looking terrible.  I can keep the rest of the house looking okay, but my own master bedroom is like a dark pit where everything goes to die.  I rarely even turn the light on in there.  I dive into bed at night and run out in the morning so that I don't have to look at the mess.

How are the rest of you doing with "self-care?"  Any tips?

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Fri, 12-14-2012 - 12:52pm

This is something I struggle with, I wonder if it's okay to be happy wearing jeans and hoodies every day of the week!  On the other hand, I'm really comfy and not having to wear nylons or heels ;)      I do get my hair cut a few times a year just because my bangs really annoy me when they are long and never look good when I trim them myself.    I also get my hair highlighted a couple times of year because it makes me feel younger.  Other than that, I don't do a lot of self-care! 

When it comes to my house,  I've learned to not stress the small stuff.  When your kids are grown and you'll have more time on your hands, your house will be cleaner.  It's more important now that you can look back and know that you spent a lot of quality time with them. 

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Sun, 12-23-2012 - 3:58pm

This is a great topic and one that can so easily go by the wayside when a woman enters motherhood. I remember in the early days I was lucky if I got to shower, let alone put on makeup and actually go somewhere! DH and I didn't have our first date until Selin was nearly 6 months old (his choice, not mine) and even now it's a struggle to get him to go out for monthly dates.

Now that Selin is older and my DH is more involved in bedtime, I can actually meet up with a friend before 8pm instead of having to wait until after she is asleep. I treat myself to monthly massages, for both relaxation and medical reasons, and wish I could afford to go more often.

I'm pretty good about getting my hair cut every few months but nail care is an area I usually neglect until the warmer months. I'm still wearing the same self-pedicure from probably August (it's nearly gone now)! I do try to meet up with a friend at least once/month. Earlier this week I went out to dinner and to see one of my favorite comediennes with a girlfriend of mine and even though I got home way late, especially for a weeknight, I had a blast and it felt so good to catchup and have some good laughs.

I'm trying to get in as much "me" time now as I can because I know once we become a family of 4 next summer, it's going to be awhile before I can get out of the house by myself again. ;-)