Were you judgemental pre-kids?

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Were you judgemental pre-kids?
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Thu, 03-08-2012 - 10:10am

I came across this very honest piece in the Huffington Post and couldn't help but shake my head in agreement while reading it.

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Mon, 03-12-2012 - 11:28am
I totally agree on that one!! I had all those strategies to make him eat everything.... Ha!! Most of them don't work!!

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Sun, 03-11-2012 - 6:06pm

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Sat, 03-10-2012 - 6:33pm
totally. i remember having this "plan" on how i was going to raise my kids and how they would behave (or how i would make them). the best example i can think of right now is feeding...no way was i going to have a picky kid. he was going to eat whatever i put in front of him. well, no dice. don't underestimate a kid's ability to put on a hunger strike if he objects to whatever edibles are in front of him. :(


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Sat, 03-10-2012 - 2:19pm

Man!

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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 4:27pm
My La Leche Leader looked at me at our last meeting with sympathy and said, "My kid was a bully just like Peter." He was literally jerking a chair out from under another kid.

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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 2:58pm

"Judge" is such a harsh word. I like to say that I "overestimated my parenting capabilities." :smileyvery-happy: We all have the best intentions, but it's just a fact of life that things never quite work out as planned.

I thought I'd be able to instill a sense of, say, where it's acceptable to run around a yell and have fun (park) and where it's unacceptable to do so (grocery store). I always told DH that I never acted that way as a child (it's true!) and that my kids would never do so either because I'd teach them that it's not okay. What I overestimated was my ability to teach them things like this. Some days my kids behave, but there are many more days when I bribe, yell, plead and even have to leave the store.

It's not that I don't still want all of those pre-parenthood dreams for my kids, it's just that it's impossible unless I figure out how to clone myself!

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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 2:34pm

I absolutely loved this article!!!

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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 2:03pm
I can relate a bit. Before kids, I thought breastfeeding was weird, all kids were annoying, and letting a kid sleep with parents was creepy.
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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 2:00pm
ubergeek wrote:

Now I'm more of a head-nodder or a "I've got one of those at home" type moms. If someone has an unruly child, I just look at the mom/dad and just shake my head, "Dude. I know. I know."

Hope, Mommy to Spencer Expecting Baby #2 09/17/12

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