When is the right time to try?
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|Fri, 08-17-2012 - 2:01pm|
Not really sure if this discussion belongs here, so please feel free to remove/PM me.
DH is 39 in Nov, I am 25, married 1 year/been together over 3.
Both career minded, though I have not finished school and am honestly not sure I want to.
The dilemma is our age difference.. He is adamant on not having children past 40ish, and I don’t know if I’m ready right now, though my window is shrinking – FAST.
I’m terrified of the dramatic life changes… though I know I could adapt, and honestly, who really regrets having children? It’s just my clock hasn’t really started ticking yet and neither has his really, he has told me repeatedly the decision is mine, and that he is “good either way” and supports whatever decision I make.
We own our home, he is a business owner, I have a full time job, we have a great marriage…
Everyone in the family is encouraging us, constantly pointing out how stable our life is and how we’ve lived together for so long we could give a child a great home and upbringing.
I’m just… not sure. Should I TTC just because of this fast shrinking window? What if my clock starts ticking in my 30s and it’s too late? I respect my husbands age boundary, as it has existed from the beginning.