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|Fri, 02-12-2010 - 10:38pm|
Hey ladies, I just need to vent/need some support. Many of you know my background. for those that don't here is quick summary.
* Been with DH for 9 total years (married for over 5 of that).
* Throughout the years we have had some hard times with him and porn and talking to women inappropriately (probably more times then I actually know about).
* In May of 2008 I found out he was having an affair with a woman he met off the internet. He was diagnosed as a Sex Addict and we have been in recovery ever since.
* January 2009 - found a great therapist who is certified in Sex Addiction and she saved my marriage, as the month before I was calling a divorce attorney.
Well he has been doing pretty well, he has had some slips where he has gone to look at porn (we have a internet blocker on our computers) but it's never been anything more than that. Today he left for a ski trip with his parents and he calls me as I am on the way to meet up with my cousin for dinner and says the following to me:
I have been having struggles the past few weeks and I want to talk more about it when I get home, but I wanted to tell you because the night I went out with Ron (his friend) I was flirting inappropriate with one of the women that was out with us.
Well first of all he didn't mention that when he went out (I stayed home) and 2nd this was like 3 weeks ago. He got trashed and spent the night at Ron's house. Well apparently when Ron saw this (or his friend talked to him) he talked to some other mutual friends of ours to see what he should do about it and then he called DH tonight to tell him he had to talk to me about it. I found out from DH that he didn't kiss or anything, but he had his hand on this chicks leg....which this isn't something he has done before. Yes he had an affair, but he got to know the woman over the internet. His urges have NEVER lead him to be this forward with strangers...so things we will have to talk about.
I am just feeling overwhelmed at this and with him not being home sad and disappointed and hurt and really missing him. I know it's strange, but he has done so well and i think all this baby stuff has made him have his slips (the stress from becoming a father) and it just concerns me that he isn't reaching out to his sponsor like he should be....just had to get it off my chest.
If you made it this far thanks for listening...Its going to be a LONG weekend!!
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