Woman charged for how she disciplines her son?

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Woman charged for how she disciplines her son?
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Tue, 02-01-2011 - 1:17pm

Has anyone heard about this story about a mom who appeared on Dr. Phil for help in discipling her son.

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Thu, 02-03-2011 - 4:27pm

I completely agree on all points, Mari.

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Thu, 02-03-2011 - 11:28am
Honestly I think that mother has no clue how to discipline her children and it shows... badly. I don't think the things she does are abuse, it's her attitude what worries me. I watched the video, and the sobbing of the kid in the shower seemed pretty normal (no one "likes" cold water). BUT I agree with Adrienne, I think the mom yells for too long, same with the hot sauce, she doesn't allow him to spit it out, while she goes on and on and on... My own parents were wonderful, sweet and very loving to us, and both of them used those "tactics" with us. I remember that my sister got into a phase of swearing like a sailor, and my mom (having tried everything) put pepper in her mouth... of course it didn't work, she ran to the bathroom and continued to curse while she washed her mouth! Another time one of my siblings was throwing a wild tantrum (as in ear piercing screams, kicking everything in sight, etc...) and dad put her in the tub and opened the cold shower over her. it worked like a charm, I think out of sheer surprise feeling the cold water. The difference between what my parents did and what that woman does is the situations they are used. One thing is to put a kid in a cold shower because they are emotionally out of control. And you do it to help them snap out of it. But a report card, is a different scenario, it's a "cold situation"... I mean, you have the time to read it and discuss it with the child's father, and decide some sort of punishment. And if the kid doesn't show any reaction to any sort of "correction", maybe it's time to ask for help. Some therapy might work. The kids in this case were adopted from Russia at age 5.. That's pretty late, I mean they've spent their first 5 years of life without real family love... that HAS to leave some mark in a child's personality, and maybe they are just not admitting it!

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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 5:54pm

Honestly the shower aspect doesn't bother me as much as the way the Mom yells at him for SO long.

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Tue, 02-01-2011 - 7:37pm

It's a tough one, and not an easy situation for anyone to be in.

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Tue, 02-01-2011 - 7:06pm

Wow I don't even know what to think!

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