All good things...

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All good things...
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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 3:57pm

Wow, this board is quiet! Well, except for the crickets I hear when I come here. :p

Anyway, most of you know my mom moved in last October. It's been a heck of a year! We've recently decided we gave it a good shot, but it's just not working out. She does help me out quite a bit with the kiddos and she is my certified assistant, but sometimes she's a bit too snippy with some of the kids and she definitely has her favorites, along with her LEAST favorites. Honestly if she were a paid assistant I'd have fired her a long time ago! lol But I digress... So, we are now looking at retirement communities for her. She can't afford to move back to Michigan and she doesn't want to anyway. The area we're in here in CO has so much more to offer AND the humidity is MUCH lower. She really can't take the high humidity in MI. We're looking for income based housing and honestly, I don't even know where to start. I'm going to have to get with some of my friends in the area that may have a clue because I sure don't! I thought she's be horribly opposed to the idea, but she's the one who brought it up. Dh and the boys (and myself) are stressed all the time. The three of them because they don't like her here and me because I'm stuck in the middle. She has told me she doesn't want to be the source of stress in the house. Dh has had to go on an antidepressant and his blood pressure's been up since she moved in. Coincidence? Probably not. But DANG he's mellow now! lol

So when my two girls leave in December I will not be filling their spots. I'll have 7 kids and I can fit 7 in my car for school transport. She was concerned about that and I told her not to be, I can handle it. If in the future I decide to fill more spots or get my large license (total of 12 spots) I'll hire help. For now our budget can swing me filling just 7 no problem.

Pray we find her something she can afford. Dh and I can help her some, but we can't maintain two house holds. We'll have to furnish whatever she gets as it is (thank you, God for Craigslist!). I just want everyone to be happy and not so stressed out. That's not too much to ask, is it??? :p

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siggy pink

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Tue, 11-10-2009 - 7:29am

I think it will be a good move Cathy.

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Tue, 11-10-2009 - 2:17pm

Thanx, Jess. We found some low income senior housing this morning, but there's a year long wait list. :( We may still have to help her with her expenses, though. She was set when my dad died 13 years ago. My rotten brothers "borrowed" everything and can't/won't pay her back. Her social security and really small retirement aren't enough for her to live off. It stinks, but it is what it is. One of these days I'm going to tell my brothers off. I don't care if they are older. It never stopped me before. :p We'll see what happens. I can't imagine another year like this, but if there's a waiting list what can we do? I don't know.

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siggy pink

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Tue, 11-10-2009 - 3:21pm
ugh!!

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