GRRRR Why Why Why?

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Registered: 10-22-2009
GRRRR Why Why Why?
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Tue, 11-10-2009 - 7:02pm

Why are some people CLUELESS????


The mom of the DCB that is supposed to start tomorrow called me tonight to ask me again to explain about my DDs bus. At 4:15 I need to go to the end of the road to meet the school bus. All my other DCKs are gone by this time. DCBs mom makes her own schedule working at home, dad is unemployed. He will be here 9 hours a day, 3 days a week so dad can "job hunt". Whatever. The point is, he does NOT need to be here until 5:00..so I explained to mom & dad at the interview that if he is still here at 4:15, I will be taking him with me to the bus stop. non-negotiable. So she calls to ask me "well how do you do it now with all the other kids?" LADY PLEASE!

Tonya

Mom to:

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 9:13pm

Yeah- pretty frustrating and they haven't started yet. Make sure you send her another copy of your policies - especially your sickness policy and hope for the best. But be aware- sounds like a high maintenance mom.


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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 7:39am

Oh, how frustrating!!! The sad thing is, you can put it in writing all day long, they can sign saying they read it, and they still won't remember because they lied!!! I can't tell you how many times parents tell me, "Oh, I didn't know that!" and I say, "It's in your handbook, and you signed the contract saying you read it." Then they say, "Oh, I didn't really read it!" Well, DUH!!! Even my newsletters that I put out each month don't get read. I find the best way is to post notices by my sign in sheet. THAT they'll usually see. It frustrates me to no end...

I hope this family works out and she gets her you-know-what together. Hugs.

Siggy
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 11:39am

Wow. RED FLAGS! Be wary. As for pink eye. grrrr. When you call to ck on him ask what meds they have put him on. There is an overthe counter pink eye med that is NOT the same as what a doc prescribes (I didn't accept the OTC pink eye med).


I'd go so far as to tell her that current you are a M-Th and until 3:30 provider. You are taking her son to help HER out. Outside of your "regular" hours he will be treated like one of the family - I would go about my business as I would if I had only my own son around. I would not sit in front fo him all day long and play w/ just him. I'd ALSO do laundry, run errands, clean house, etc. I woudl set aside points int eh day where I played directly w/ him, but most of the time he'd be w/ me. I'd be talkign to him, engaging him, having him do things w/ me, but I am hoping this mom doesn't expect you to be an attached nanny KWIM?


I found that parents usually don't have any issue w/ you doing other things when it is just their child. I had one that wanted late care - I made it clear that OT doesn't mean I am one on one, it just means yes your child can stay here and participate w/ my family.


Good luck

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 12:50pm
I gave them the boot LOL

Tonya

Mom to:

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 1:10pm
You go, Girl. :p I do think we should check the PARENT'S references. Who better to tell us if they're kooks?! lol When a family bounces from provider to provider, there's obviously a problem--either behavioral with the child or with the parents. Way to follow your guy instinct.
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