my youngest goes for testing

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Wed, 11-18-2009 - 1:09pm

My youngest daughter, Em. is 6 and in grade 1. She has been having a lot of difficulties in school and some at home. The paediatrician and the school thinkg ADD. We have a specialist appointment next week. Lucky someone cancelled, otherwise we would have to wait until end o february. Lot's of forms to fill out, teacher wrote a letter and filled out a survey for the specialist.


I am feeling overwhelmed. Glad to get the appointment, but just apprehensive. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers.

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Wed, 11-18-2009 - 2:34pm

(((HUGS))), Tina.

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Wed, 11-18-2009 - 2:53pm

What do you think? do you think she has ADD? I'd hate to have her labeled if that isn't the case.


GOOD LUCK.



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Wed, 11-18-2009 - 3:18pm

First of all, Tina, take a deep breath. Now, I know how overwhelming it is. Btdt. The thing to remember though, is your child will be the same with or without a diagnosis! A dx does NOT change a thing, except it gives professionals a path to follow to help your child. Knowing what's going on helps determine what to do next. She'll still be the same great kid she is. For my oldest that kid is a smart, funny, creative, passionate child (well, teen, but still...). For my youngest, that means a witty, caring, loving, funny, smart, wonderful kid. Yes, both my boys are ADD/ADHD. Their dx's didn't change who they were. They just helped us help them more. Like Deb, you can email me any time. Hang in there. We're all here for ya. Hugs.

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Thu, 11-19-2009 - 9:52am

Thanks Deb, I was feeling really down-so I needed the encouragement and the hug.


Emily has always been "unique", but with going into grade 1, some of her behaviours have increased and she has a hard time focusing on task (unless it is something that she is really interested in). And her tolerance for frustration and irritations is nil.


I just might be emailing you when we find out more. thanks for the offer.


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Thu, 11-19-2009 - 9:55am
I don't know what is wrong, but something isn't right, kwim? I don't want to label her either, but I don't want to just sit and wait and have her get no help. I went on-line and apparently ADD can show up differently in girls- she does actually fit the profile. My dh comes from a large family-many siblings- and i know that some of her cousins have been diagnosed with ADD and other problems. I don't want to ignore it.
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Thu, 11-19-2009 - 10:01am

THanks, I will try to remember to breathe. I spoke to my older sister- and she got mad at me- said I should just accept Emily for being different. And I do. She is very creative and funny- actually she says things and makes connections that most 6 years olds would not. And she has no tact and is very blunt and says what she thinks and feels (which I like, but at times drives me crazy) but some of the other stuff is hurting her and preventing her from doing well at school and with other kids.


I am glad that I am home with her- i don't know how she would do with another caregiver, kwim? But I wonder if the noise and busyness of daycare is adding to her frustration too.


Thanks for sharing-its good to know that i'm not alone.

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Thu, 11-19-2009 - 10:50am

Her behavior sound exactly like my ds Aidan's behavior right now. The school had a committee and did a little testing- they thought ADD- which we fought. Their conclusions right now were immaturity. I don't want to say my son as ADD cause he can stay on task if he wants to- but most of the time he doesn't want to do what everyone else wants him to do. He currently breaks down in tears for the silliest things. We do not know what to do.


This morning DH and I had a talk and I wonder if he needs further ADD testing-


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Thu, 11-19-2009 - 11:24am

Of course you accept Em just as she is! I'm sure your sister didn't mean anything otherwise by her comment. Sometimes it's just how things come across to us. People with "typical" children don't get what it's like for those of us with kids who break the mold. :) I don't say "normal". There's a saying on one of the boards I used to frequent--"Normal is just a setting on a dryer." When used to describe children, how do you define it? What would "normal" be for a person? You'll get through this. You know your child best. Huge kudos for doing what's best for your kid. :)

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Thu, 11-19-2009 - 11:53am

Sheryl, its not what we think, as parents, but what the professionals think.

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Thu, 11-19-2009 - 11:56am

You're doing the right thing, Tina.

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