Odd situation or not?

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Registered: 11-11-2011
Odd situation or not?
Fri, 11-11-2011 - 1:38pm

Hi everyone,

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Fri, 11-11-2011 - 3:38pm

I think trusting your gut is important.

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Registered: 11-03-2011
Mon, 11-21-2011 - 11:50am

HI...just a few of my own thoughts. Seeing how I'm not there so I don't know the full extent of everything that is said and observe the behaviors I will offer my thoughts on what I know from my own experience.

First, you sound a lot like me when caring for kids...boundaries without being 'mean'. Kids REALLY do respect that, even if they don't act like it. I haven't started my daycare yet, but I used to do daycare in my home and cared for many kids throughout those days, as well as raising 6 of my own, and now 2 foster kids as well.

I ALWAYS noticed my daycare kids were very GOOD. They knew my expectations, they knew what to expect throughout the day because we had a routine, but the minute the parents came to the door, the turned into monsters. So I believe that is pretty much normal. With me, I didn't feel comfortable disciplining kids once their parents arrived because I felt it was the parents responisibility at that point. I WON'T be doing it that way this time. As long as they are in my home, they are still going to follow my rules and if parents get mad because I discipline their child while they're there...too bad.

As for the affection he shows towards his grandmother...it sounds as though she has made him her prized possession and he's playing it for all it's worth...normal also. BUT, if he's five and sleeping with his grandmother, I might would have some concerns myself if I saw other signs that might indicate it.

Maybe while you're coloring, playing quiet games or something like that you could just have casual conversations with him about his life at home and if you really feel concerned, you have to do what your conscious tells you to do...these are my opinions only and you may feel differently about it, but just wanted to offer my thoughts...Hope all turns out well and this is just a matter of a grandmother overly spoiling her grandson.