Does anyone WAH with little ones?

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Does anyone WAH with little ones?
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Mon, 01-16-2012 - 9:06am

Hello everyone. I'm a WAH currently with 3 children -- 19, 15, and 11. Have been working from home since hubby moved us to TX for his job -- I was VERY lucky that I got to bring my job with me. It's especially nice now that I'm pregnant and exhausted all the time. I cannot imagine having to get myself together and go to work. Working in my jammies all day is quite nice. :)

Anyhoo. We found out in December that we're expecting #4, and I'm nervous about how that's going work out with a little one. Daycare won't be an option for a good while -- no way we can afford it. A couple other mommies in my company work from home also and it seems like they're managing well, but they're higher on the food chain and thus make more money, and their children are in daycare. So, just curious if anyone has been in this boat and how you handled it, what to expect, etc.

I don't really have hour flexibility. I work when the east coasters work, from 7am to 4pm with a lunch hour at 11. I'm in a business that more often than not there is some deadline (often being moments after I receive something that needs my attention) to deal with. I have 3 co-workers who can cover for me for doc appointments and such, but those are most often planned events. At any given time, the 4 of us are working on 6-10 projects at once, so it's not practical to ask someone to handle things while I'm dealing with a fussy baby if I'm on a hurry-up-and-get-this-out kind of deadline.

Fairly early to be overly concerned, but worrying is my thing. LOL.

Thanks much for any insight and tips!

Brie


Brie
Mom to Libby/17, William/12, and Jacob/8
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Registered: 04-22-2003
Tue, 04-10-2012 - 3:22pm

Hey, Brie.

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Tue, 01-17-2012 - 6:47am

Hi, Margaret!

You're right about the kids -- my boys are out of the house by 7am and then not home again until about 3pm... so they're not going to be a big help except on school vacations. My one saving grace may be Libby -- she's taking the year off from college right now because of the move (out-of-state tuition would have put too big a dent in her college fund), but she thinks that once she starts in the fall, we might be able to create her schedule to where she'd be home more in the day, maybe even get some weekend classes. She'll almost have to redo her first year at community college due to differences in classes here, so we've realistically have her for 2 more years, more if I can get her to live at home once she transfers to a 4-year...

Ah, unfortunately hubby won't be a big help. He works up to 18 hours a day some days, and he takes so little vacation that he's not even accruing it anymore (I think they top out at 6 weeks, so that tells you something right there).

As far as the work reputation thing, I'm not worried about that at all. I worked in the office for 1.5 years before moving here, and everyone knows that I'm a very hard worker already -- even while in the office I'd work late or come in on the weekend in order to get projects out on time, and so far since I've been working from home, I have about 60 hours OT (we don't do OT, but it's comp time that we accrue for forever and use as we need -- I'll be using it to help with maternity leave). I have a very strong work ethic and they know that, so I'm in good shape there. Honestly, I think I put in more hours now that I'm home because it's too easy to get an email on my phone and then login and knock something out. And I don't claim OT unless it's something of an urgent nature. If I'm working after hours simply because I want to, then I don't charge the company for it.

I'm going to see if I can find some SAHMs that might be able to assist once in a while -- that's a great idea. It's so hard because we know no one -- that's the downside of working from home. Even hubby's co-workers who might know people are all in Houston -- we're in Katy, just outside and I'll want someone nearby. I do know a couple working moms through the boys, so need to speak to them and see if they know anyone.

Thankfully, I won't need help until probably 2013, so nothing is dire at this point. :)

My mother had thyroid issues, and I've actually been reading up on it lately... I have my 3rd ultrasound on Thursday so will bring it up to my OB. I am more exhausted this time than I've ever been while pregnant, but I don't know if some of that is just my age and my body having a more challenging time adjusting to the baby. We're close to the 2nd trimester and I sure hope I get some energy back. This is ridiculous (I went to be at 6pm yesterday because I could not keep my eyes open).

Thanks so much for your input. I do appreciate it!

Brie


Brie
Mom to Libby/17, William/12, and Jacob/8
Community Leader
Registered: 04-22-2003
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 5:07pm
Welcome and congratulations! I did it through 2 pregnancies and toddlerhoods without any daycare or outside help, but only because I was a part-timer. If you can enlist any help from family or friends, do it. Check out neighborhood teens or college kids who are willing to be Mother's Helpers for a few critical hours here and there. Your big kiddos will be a help, but they have their own schedules/lives so the help will be the exception rather than the rule. (It sounds harsh, but I have 4 kids and I know.) Keep your eyes open for a mom who works 2nd shift. She may be willing to watch your babe for a while in the early afternoon in return for your help in the early evening, a win-win. Newborns sleep a lot and that helps. You can also work while feeding. I put my kids on a boppy pillow in my lap while I was working and they never knew they didn't have my full attention, just enjoyed the closeness and I did too. Working at home is a challenge but a huge blessing. I had my older 2 in daycare when I was full-time manager, and I know I missed a lot. My best advice is work hard now in your jammies - despite the fatigue - while you aren't as distracted. When you have a good reputation as a hard worker, it will be easier to forgive the chaos that accompanies an addition to the family. Tell the hubster to do the same as you can have him take some vacation time early next year to watch baby while you work on important and impromptu projects. It's the least he can do after moving you to Texas, KWIM? There are a thousand more things that will come up so keep in touch and bookmark this site. It is a slow board, but the moms are fabulous and super smart. Also and this seems off-topic, have your doc check your thyroid function now and later. I was SO TIRED with my fourth and no one thought to check that, but my thyroid stopped working and I will always wonder if that is why my fourth child has developmental delays that the other three didn't. I told my doc I was tired and he just patted my hand and said "it's because you're bringing a new life into the world." Hello? Did it before and didn't need naps, LOL. It is a lot of work, but super worth it. I wish you the best and hope this helps! Margaret
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