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Sat, 07-22-2006 - 10:42am
Hi,
My name is annette I am married and my husband and I have four children. DS 14 DD 12 DD 7 DD 15 months. It is hectic in our house.
I am an independent sales rep for a cosmetic company. I have been doing this for 1 year now and I also work with the district manager so that $$ helps out too. I love what I do cuz I can stay home with my children. I used to work for a mortgage company and don't regret leaving that job. Hope to talk more to you all
annette

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Registered: 07-19-2006
In reply to: netter2005
Mon, 07-24-2006 - 12:57am
Welcome to one newbie from another..I am Lori...married with a 2 and a 3 year old and a 46 year old child(husband) and I too work from home and love it.I work with a new jewelry company that specializes in the art of handcrafted original designs.My life is also quite hectic but not nearly as hectic as yours!
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Registered: 05-02-2005
In reply to: netter2005
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 9:54pm
Hi,
Nice to meet you. Four children are quite a handful, especially with a teenager and a preteen girl. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRrr. anyway it will be a challange.
take care
annette
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Registered: 07-19-2006
In reply to: netter2005
Thu, 07-27-2006 - 10:20pm
Pre-teen girl...is that worse than a 3 year old girl? I'm in big trouble!!!Ha Ha.Take Care.Lori
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Registered: 05-02-2005
In reply to: netter2005
Fri, 07-28-2006 - 8:39am
I would give anything to have her back at 3. Good luck!!
Annette
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Registered: 07-19-2006
In reply to: netter2005
Fri, 07-28-2006 - 8:44pm
Somedays I like it ..other days she has the attitude of a 20 year old and it drives me insane because I know i'm only dealing with a 3 year old.....and she does'nt quite understand everything.Throwing a wild 2 year old boy in the mix does'nt help.Not to mention the fact that he is cutting his back teeth....CRABBY!as well as a sore behind.FUN FUN FUN.How on earth do you manage 4?Kudos to you.Lori
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Registered: 05-02-2005
In reply to: netter2005
Fri, 07-28-2006 - 10:30pm
There is positive to all this too. Now that she is older we do more things together. She loves to shop, which we only get to do when we can afford it but it is still fun. Going out for breakfast or lunch one on one and talking about school or friends or anything. The only thing I dont like (which this has not happened yet) is boys. I am so worried about that.
I have a 7 yr old girl that is more of a handful then my 12yr old girl. She has this attidude of a 17-18 yr old girl the kind that knows everything.
Four kids is hard. I think the hardest part is trying to be a parent and not a friend. I had my son when I was 17, I find myself wanting to please them all the time and I am now finding out that no matter what I do, I dont please them. My son loves to push my buttons all the time but that goes with a 14 yr old.
Take care annette
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Registered: 07-19-2006
In reply to: netter2005
Sun, 07-30-2006 - 10:06am
Well I still think that you must truly be a very patient person to deal with four children.I am typing this as my 2 year old climbs on me and my daughter whines about mosquito bites...and that her brother is too loud.Just another day in tha magical land of mommyhood.Don't get me wrong ..I love my children..more than anything..however I started direct sales just to get away a little bit because I felt I was losing myself?Do you ever get that feeling?Lori
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Registered: 05-02-2005
In reply to: netter2005
Sun, 07-30-2006 - 10:46am
I know exactly what you are going through. I do feel lost sometimes. I always come last. I do try and go shopping by myself at least once a month. The other day the older three kids were cleaning or playing on the computer and I decided I was going to go have coffee with my mom and run some errands, well my 7yr old wanted to go with me and I said no I am just going to pay some bills I ended up going to dairy queen and getting me that new carmel cheesequake blizzard boy was it good without any kids around, then I went to have coffee with my mom and go shopping(I still had to bring the baby but she slept alot) when I got home my 7 yr old said you were gone too long and you went and had coffee with grandma, she was mad but It felt good to get away. I don't have anyone to take care of them except my husband but he works a lot. I don't trust too many people so they are with me all the time.
Once they get older they become more independent and will not take up so much time.One thing I did learn because my son is now 14, is to cherish every minute. I would give anything to have him back as a toddler. They do take up a lot of time when they are younger but once they get older they want to be with friends, that is when you will have time for yourself. Enjoy them now.
take care
anntte
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Registered: 07-19-2006
In reply to: netter2005
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 3:23pm
Many people have said that I need to enjoy them while they are young.Advice I will take.I appreciate your honesty about life with the children..it's good to know I'm not alone in my crazy world.Thanks .Lori
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Registered: 09-01-2005
In reply to: netter2005
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 1:42pm
Boy can I relate to you two.My 13 yr old is driving me insane.And the 9 yr old wants to act like she is 13.Ugh I was so much better at being a mother to little ones.I also just joined a direct sales company so i can get some me time.I am sick to death of feeling on the short end of the stick.You sacrifice so much and they get older and don't appreciate it.At least when they are little you get the hugs and the kisses and the I love you Mommy.The excited look when you come home.I find it harder dealing with my feelings when all they want is to be with friends.Even though I know it's normal and I remember being the same way.I guess i wasn't prepared for how much it hurts.Oh well enough of the rant the two older ones do have there good points as well.It's nice not to have to entertain them every second.My youngest is very shy and clingy.Hates to be away from me for 2 seconds.The other night I wanted to take a bath and she whined the whole time i was in there and had to be with daddy.Poor guy gets hurt feelings as well.The funny thing is I know when they are all grown I'll miss having them around.

 

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