Newbie here. What's it really like??

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Registered: 07-19-2006
Newbie here. What's it really like??
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Wed, 07-19-2006 - 4:35pm

Hi Everyone,

I'm so glad I found this board! I need advice from work at home moms out there.

My Situation:
I currently work from home doing graphic design work which means I'm usually at my computer all day. I have some flexibility with hours because most projects are usually not due the same day.

So, my hubby and I are thinking now would be a good time to start a family, okay we've already started trying ; ). Am I crazy to even think I can handle a baby and job? I don't have the option of being a stay at home mom because of $$ so it's this way or daycare. Of those of you who have done this are you exhausted and overworked everyday? I don't have much experience with babies so I don't know if they usually entertain themselves if you have a pack n' play or what. Any thoughts/advice/experience would be great.

Thanks!
Casey

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Registered: 07-20-2006
Thu, 07-20-2006 - 12:27pm

Hi! My name is Denise and I am a stay at home mom of 3 and I babysit my nephew. Six years ago I was told by my daughter's doctor that I needed to stay at home with her. She was born 6 weeks prematurely and developed apnea at 5 weeks of age. Things happened and the doctor suggested that I stay home with her because that was best for her. Well, since then I have had two more daughters. The middle is 4 and the baby is 21 months. I know that the reason I am home with my children is because my daughter had a health problem but I have to say that it was the best thing that could have ever happened. I love being home with my children. Sure things have been very hard on the financial end and I have tried to help my husband with with that part of our life by doing odd and end things here and there but I would not change anything. I know it is stressful for him as well as myself. I am currently babysitting my baby nephew and that is helping a little. I have tried so many different things online and some have produced but most have not. I am currently trying a venture that is producing very well for my husband and I. It looks like he may be able to cut back even more on his overtime if not stop it completely this week. It is just shocking to me that years of trying to work from home and finally it is coming true. I send well wishes to you and I hope that your dreams can come true just as ours are starting to.

Sincerely,

Denise
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Registered: 03-07-2005
Fri, 07-28-2006 - 10:52pm

I went back to work after my son was born (I was in the Navy), and I also worked at home part time on my own internet businesses. Shortly after my daughter was born, it was time for me to get out of the Navy, and I decided to run my businesses full time rather then get another job. It's a lot of work sometimes, especially days when it seems like there's not enough of me to go around, and I feel like I'm not getting enough work done, or I'm not paying enough attention to the kids, or both. But I must say that most days it's wonderful, and I wouldn't trade it for anything. I feel very happy and satisfied at the end of the day, and I wouldn't want it any other way. There were financial adjustments to be made (WAH finances can be a rollercoaster at times, until you get an established income) and scheduling adjustments, etc., but it's amazingly easy to adapt to just about anything when it's something that you truly enjoy.

There's never a perfect time to start a family...you just have to go for it. And there's no way to predict if you'll have an easy baby who sleeps all day, or one who demands your constant attention (or constant feeding, which was the case with my son). Whatever it is, you'll get used to your baby's schedule very quickly, and working at home at the same time shouldn't be a problem. It's not until later that you really have to keep them entertained (so they don't color on the walls, eat the house plants, etc.). By then you'll be a pro at the whole mom thing, and it'll be second nature to you. :-)

Good luck!

~Miranda