Newly Pregnant - How do I balance it all

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Registered: 10-04-2006
Newly Pregnant - How do I balance it all
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 12:28pm

Hi all,

This is so cool....a board for work at home moms.

I've been working at home for 4 years now. I telecommute for a management consulting firm. Specifically, I analyze and write personality profiles. I'm an independent contractor, so I set my own hours. I am completely overwhelmed by the idea of working, raising a child, and managing a household all at the same time. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm 12 weeks pregnant, so I still have a ton of time to prepare myself, though I have this sneaking suspicion that the next 6 months are going to fly by.

I usually work for 4-6 hours a day, most of them in the morning, but I can work any time of the day I want. Will I be able to give that much time to my job each day? Will the baby be agreeable? I need to concentrate in order to write. Should I plan on getting a babysitter/nanny, or can I do this alone? No family nearby to help. My husband works 10-11 hour days 5 days a week (more like 12-13 hours with his commute).

Kristi

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Tue, 11-07-2006 - 3:37pm

Hi Kristi - welcome to the board, I'm glad you found us.

I know how hard it can be working at home with little ones. My baby is almost 4 months old and she is very easy to work around. She still sleeps a lot of the time and that lets me do my work in decent chunks of time (about an hour or so at a time) BUT my toddler is another story! Twenty one months is a very demanding age but at least she is still taking a nap during the early afternoon for about an hour and a half.

I will admit that when I have a lot to do I will put her in front of a video and let her be entertained by the TV but that's reasonably rare. My husband is a good help in the evenings and on Sunday when he's home - he knows that I need phone time, show time and just plain old WORK time. For example - Sunday he took the oldest two for a 'ride' for about an hour and a half - they went to the other side of the island for 'the good shave ice' and to buy some fresh live shrimp because I had to get a lot of work done.

My seven year old is the one who really can make it hard to work - she has that child radar that says - I can ignore Mom and not need anything from her until 30 seconds after she gets on the phone. She also gets frustrated watching her younger sister while I try to get work done but is usually really good about it.

It is a juggling exercise to work at home and have your kids at home but it is very rewarding too. I would recommend taking as long of a maternity leave that you can though because you will be tired and exhausted after the baby is born - and you will not be sleeping much. I took a break from May until the end of August from my business and didn't have one sale but I did move in June and have a baby in July. If you decide that you can go back to work right away you might regret it and then have a hard time getting the time off when the baby is 4 or so weeks old - or see if you can ease back into working. Just because you are working at home doesn't mean that you are going to be able to jump right back in.

Again thanks for finding us and I hope you get great advice and make some good friends here.

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Wed, 11-08-2006 - 8:25pm

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

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Mon, 11-13-2006 - 12:51am

Congrats! I have my own business, and I had the same concerns. Someone gave me "The Price of Motherhood" to read early on, and I found it very depressing. I have a fussy baby, and I'm nursing, making it really challenging to get much done during the day. I have a mother's helper who works 3 days a week in the mornings. That's when I try to do most of my phone calls and schedule conference calls.

Everyone told me that babies sleep all of the time. Well, mine is very alert and doesn't nap very long. So when it's just the two of us, I have a crib set up in the home office. But, since he's a high-needs baby, I spend a lot of time soothing him.

I learned to prepare meals that I can eat with one hand. Unfortunately, I'm typing with one hand while holding him in the other. That really slows me down. So I'm looking into software that type what I dictate. There's supposed to be some great software now that let's people dictate emails and word documents. I'm looking into it now, and so far, I found a program called Dragon Naturally Speaking by a company called Nuance. I found out that Apple has a program, but it's only for Macs, and I have a pc. I'll let you know how that goes.

I learned not to be too rigid with my plans after the baby was born. What works for one mom may not work for another. I feel that a lot depends upon the baby's temperment, his needs and how they fit in with your needs.

Best of luck!

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 9:58pm
Have you tried wearing your son in a sling when your typing?
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Sun, 12-17-2006 - 2:54pm

Congrats on your pregnancy. I have been WAH fr over 2 years now and have a 2 year old DD. I started WAH when I was 24 months pregnant with her. We moved to another state. I put her in daycare when she was 14 months old. Reason that it was successful was because DH was not working, and he could watch her upstairs while I worked downstairs. It also saved us money. It was an expensive move, and with one month of having DD, we also moved into a new house, and with DH unemployed, we couldn't afford to pay for daycare. It was very hard.. and I don't advice it if you can't handle it. She is in daycare now, and doing well. The transistion from being at home to daycare was smooth.. DD is a people-person. I would say look into several options, daycare, nanny. See which best suits you. I'm now 12 wks pregnant and of course this baby will go to daycare when 3 months old. The daycare is just 5 mins drive from our home, so I can always stop and see him/her.

HTH,
S

Nikky