I'm just SO tired!

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Registered: 01-24-2012
I'm just SO tired!
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Fri, 01-18-2013 - 3:27pm

I'm working two part time jobs which together equal 40 hours. I know I shouldn't complain, I'm very happy to have these jobs but I'm SO tired. By the time I have some free time at night, I'm too exhausted to stay up and enjoy it. Whenever I complain to others, the advice I get is "well, just quit one of them!".Um...it's not that easy. Our finances would seriously be strained bringing on a whole new type of stress.Ugh. Guess I'm not really asking a question, just wanted to vent to others who might understand!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 01-24-2013 - 11:46am

Are you eating healthy, getting enough sleep & getting some exercise (yes, exercise actually helps).  What kind of hours are you working?  To be honest, 40 hrs/week is basically what most people work if they have one full time job so it shouldn't really be that tiring--maybe you just started the 2nd job so you just aren't used to it?  I've been working full time plus being a single mom of 2 kids since they were little so I guess I'm just used to it.  Make sure you don't have anything medically wrong cause when I was anemic I was much more tired--I just didn't realize I had it--I figured it was normal to feel that way.  I don't know how old your kids are but make sure they pitch in as appropriate for your ages and don't think that you have to do all the stuff around the house too.  It's important to make time for yourself and sometimes the house won't be perfectly clean, but you will live.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Thu, 01-24-2013 - 1:34pm
I can commiserate. How old are your kids? Musiclover had some great suggestions, make sure they are pitching in at home when and where they can and make sure you are getting good healthy meals and some exercise, even if its just kicking the ball around outside with the kids, walks, or dancing in the living room to silly songs if they are on the younger side. I went through the same thing a lot about a year ago and found out I was Vitamin D deficient and it made a huge difference once I changed some of my eating habits to eliminate a lot of the excess sugar I was eating and adding in a Vitamin D supplement every day. Hugs! And if you are doing a lot of extra running around with kids' activities, it may be time to limit them to one each or something so that you have a bit more down time and aren't so busy on the weeknights or weekends. (I know, easier said then done).
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Registered: 09-12-2003
Mon, 01-28-2013 - 8:43am

totally normal. Most working moms I know go through periods of pure exhaustion. I get up at 5am so I can work out, then I have to get DH and my younest up and out, then me and my oldest. Some mornings I am also making that nights dinner at 6am. I have lunches to pack, breakfasts to get. My DH is useless in the morning and usually it boils over and I hit a breaking point. 90% of house work and child care fall on me. He gives me the I have a physically demanding job line; well I have a mentally EXHUASTING one especially this time of the year which usually ends in a huge blow out and I get some "help" that fades once I get some rest and stop being so b'tchy to be repeated in 8 to 12 weeks and the story is the same in most houses.

I had my hours adjusted at work so I can do school drop off so I get in an hour later then most coworkers but I am EXHAUSTED before I even start my day. Some people ASSUME because I come in at 9 I sleep later but I've done more by the time I get to work that some of them have all day because no brousing craigslist doesn't count as work. Older coworkers get it they have been there and I know I can't complain because some did it on their own to which I ask HOW!!! Although we do have on going discussions if DH make it easier or harder :) I have friends outside work who work different types of jobs and they don't get. I work until 5 that means I am there until 5, I can't get up and leave earlier on a friday without asking in advance and taking vacation time, I am hourly. This also means we get home at 6 at night. Come friday I am done. Physically and mentally. Thank GOD for afterschool and homework help because I'd be a hot mess if we had to tackle homework too. I have 2 hours to get dinner and wind down time in. My house gets cleaned on weekends if I am luck because older kids get more that gets crammed in those weekends. I've been called a HORRIBLE mother because I am too tired to read at night EVERYNIGHT. Don't ask me anything about anything that happens after 9pm because if I am still awake its because I am battling a kid.

So I know I am rambling but just know you aren't allow. Others can't tell you what you should do until they walk in your shoes. Its been almost 10 years and finally learning to just ignore the negative. Its our life we have to do what we need to do to keep a roof over our head and food on our table and these days won't last forever. I have a 4 yr old and a 9.5 year old. Once my little one is more indepenant I won't feel as tied down. Once my kids are in teh same school I won't be running all over. Once I am done paying day care I won't feel as financially defeated. Of course there will be other struggles and if I can get through these ones will get through those and eventually they will be out of the house and grown and I will be the lady at work going "I'v BTDT and don't worry its normal and you will survive"

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Registered: 01-24-2012
Fri, 03-08-2013 - 1:17pm

Thank you guys for the advice and suggestions! I felt a lot better immediately, just knowing I wasn't alone.

I also made an appt to get my iron levels tested, just in case that's adding to my exhaustion.

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Registered: 11-12-2012
Wed, 04-24-2013 - 4:34pm
Working moms are tired. Moms never really get time off. Its off to a job and in your case 2 which equals to 40 hours and then you come home, cook, clean, do the wash, pick up after everyone and start all over again the next day. Give yourself a break, of course you are tired. Vent all you want we are all tired!!!!!
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Registered: 05-08-2013
Wed, 05-08-2013 - 2:32pm

Being tired is natural! You work, come home, and work some more.  You can't punch out on parenting! :) My biggest struggle is working nonstop and still not having enough money.  I find myself looking for coupons and deals to get by! Here's to being parents and working hard for our babies!

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