Last Tuesday was my one month wedding anniversary and I’m here already. I feel so ashamed and I’m not sure what to do. I’m embarrassed to admit that I caught him stepping out when we were dating, he broke down, cried, begged for forgiveness, promised to do anything it took to win me back. I guess I believed him because I wanted to believe him. We went to counseling and that really seemed to go great! We were communicating better and happier than we had ever been.
A few weeks before the wedding, I found a condom in his car. I asked him about why it would be in there and he told me that he had been trying to plan some “spontaneous fun” for us before the wedding. Almost immediately after the wedding he turned really mean – borderline abusive. He hasn’t struck me, it’s all verbal.
I found out yesterday morning that he’s seeing someone else again. This time I even know who she is. By the conversation that I found – miraculously – (because a few hours later he had deleted the whole trail, but I printed it for record!)