i have been married for nine and half year. one and half year back i came to know my H has been having an affair for last whole one year. i was shattered. i cried a lot asked him why did he do this. demanded him to end the affair immediately. He felt very guilty. not once tried to blame me for his affair. called himself selfish and weak. I didn't want to leave him. we have got 2 kids together. they r still too small to notice any tension between us.