Did more snooping and found a lot more messages, phone calls and pics sent. Most of them were 6 + months ago, but there's that one out-of-state woman he texted a few days ago.

It's killing me to not say anything and act normal around him. My dilema is that we have family coming to stay with us in a few days. Do I say something now and risk a huge fight and tension when everybody is here or do I silently suffer for another week? We live with family and I have no close friends in this state and we have a baby.

I really don't want any of the family to know anything.

How did the confrontations go with all of you? Were those of you wanting to work it out and stay together able to act normal around family and friends shortly after?

I realize not all of you knew first, but any insight is greatly appreciated. I just feel so hurt and confused... He was the one who always said if you're gonna cheat, just get a divorce and if you say I love you and are hiding something, it isn't true. I've been very faithful and honest with him.

Sigh... I hate that any of us have a reason to be here. I know none of us signed up for this.

Thanks in advance.