my husband was sexting an ex of his .. offering to find ways to meet for an affair. we have been together almost three years but married less than a year and have a six week old. this was not the first time that he did this.. I don't know if counseling can help this behavior or not as i tried to explain to him that it was still cheating. the woman didn't encourage or even really respond to him he was seeking sex outside our marriage. note i only did not have sex with him for three weeks after the baby.
our trust is gone and the worst thing is the last time he sought that encounter was minutes after he told me he loves me.i am not sure how to begin to rebuild our relationship. i am just lost right now, really hurt and he doesn't seem to get exactly why. he seemed more sorry he was caught than the fact he did it.he is generally a good partner he is kind never uses any harsh words etc help with our daughter... he did voluntarily delete any social networking accounts he had and has offered to get just a plan cell phone instead of his smart phone... i am just lost right now. he tells me he loves me and i just shake my head i know if he did he would have never tried to cheat