My dear friend has been a little distant lately, less likely to invite me over, etc. Today she asked me what I think of her involvement with a new/old male friend. I asked what there was to think, and she told me he wanted a relationship. She led me to believe that even though this is not sure what she wants, they have already slept together. I suspected as much, but I have no claim on her. Nothing has ever happened between us of a sexual nature, except in my imagination, and it is clear that it is likely that nothing ever will. I told her that if she was looking for advice, I was not a good person to ask. For one thing, I am hardly any expert on romance, and most of what I know about relationships is how to avoid them. She put her head down and did not look up for awhile after I said that. She was cleaning the floor at the time, but she seemed to give the floor more attention than necessary in my personal estimation. I did not know what else to say. She assured me he is a really nice guy, and I reminded her that all of her bf's including the father of the youngest, really seemed nice at first. I also suggested that she may not have the best judgment when it comes to men, because she seems to jump from one relationship right into another to avoid looking at her relationship with herself. She acknowledged that I had a point, but said she did not want to intellectualize about it that much. I don't know what she was hoping I would say, but I told her that the only thing I suggested is that she think about what she wants and needs, not let anyone pressure her into anything, and be good to herself. Hardly Ann Landers advice, but the best i could do under the circumstances.