I've been chatting with this guy online since first of December. We've met twice for lunch and didn't talk again after the second lunch. He waited a month and then contacted me again saying I didn't hear from him because I wasn't ready to date. I separated in November. We have chatted online, texted, and talked on the phone but haven't seen each other again. This is partly my fault because he called me up on New Years Eve and was in town (his brother lives in the town I live in) and wanted to see me. I told him not until I see where things went with us. That somebody running out on me like he did (no explanation at the time) was a real deal breaker for me. We were chatting last night and I asked his brother's name. He asked if it matter? Am I asking too personal a question since we met online and haven't really been on a date or is he being to secretive?