here's an example of what you might find at the bar:

Nice enough looking guy, introduces self, likes to golf, likes the music, thinks I'm hot, want's to dance, had a blowout with the wife only 3 weeks prior!, already at the bar looking for a woman, currently living with parents, when I suggest at 3 weeks out of a 17 year marriage there's a possibility he may get back together with his wife he readily admits it, say's his (4) kids are all pissed at him, says he blew it by communicating online with a woman (though nothing came of it), which I told him yeah, I'd be pissed too!, and he agreed.

I said 'look, you have a looong way to go before you're even ready to date. Again he agreed. And still insisted I take his phone no., in case I want to go golfing sometime. LOL No, thanks.