I know this isn't specifically about OLD but, I saw this on Facebook today:
"Someday someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else."
I try to remember that meeting someone really is out of my control. I feel so often that I need to be out scouring the countryside, beating the bushes (AND doing OLD) trying to smoke out a guy, when really, when it happens, it's sort of effortless. It doesn't mean I can sit in my living room waiting for "it" to happen, after all, "chance favors the prepared mind," but I don't have to drive myself insane, trying to show up at every social function in town.
This also goes for not trying to force myself to be attracted to someone.