I need some advice & need to vent as well. I have had a tempestuous relationship with my SIL & now we mainly just stay out of each others way. That seems to work for now, but I know it's only a temporary band-aid. Anyways, we've had some very big run-ins within the last six months & I'm starting to get the impression that my MIL is now backing away from us & our kids. My husband has told her our side, but I know SIL has told her their distorted versions though. She's always chosen SIL's kids before ours, (although I think it was more of a guilt trip that was thrown on her)but I'm also wondering if I'm just being sensitive. She lives about 1.5 hours away, & when she comes to town, she almost always gos to SIL's house first (where she gets "tricked" into babysitting for hours at a time) & usually only stops at our house on her way out of town. That has been happening for quite awhile now, but it still bothers me. Last night, she called and asked my husband if she could stay the night (had to clean up one of bil's messes again). My kids were really excited & couldn't wait for her to get there (they don't see her that often), & she never showed up! She didn't even call or anything. I know she came into town, because she was seen by someone & her youngest daughter called our house early this morning looking for her. Should I say something to her? It really hurts my feelings, because whenever someone in his family needs help, we're one of the first people they run to & never ask for anyting in return, we bend over backwards for her, while the other siblings treat her like dirt, yet we seem to be the outcasts. Plus, my husband never wants to "cause" problems so he never says anything (which causes us problems) Help please.