Me and my Sis-in-law are both now married to a diforcees with two kids. We have a similar age, looks(in a way) and obviously, like to dress up nicely, however, at the time she came in to the picture, I was married for some 3 1/2 years. Last year I became pregnant and they announced their engagement soon afterwards. They wed and she is 7 month pregnant now.
Once we learnt she is expecting - I offered her books, pregnancy magazines and my clothes, which I think she liked, as she commented on them when I was preganant ( D&G and Moschino). As I am a mum and I am working - it is very difficult to make time for other things, however, I suggested to her to go out for a coffee once, conversation diverted to the ex-wifes, she also complained of a uneasiness between her husband's ex and kids access (to me it is all old and I am not overeacting to the same staff now). Meeting finished with her saying that it was great that we have similar ex's so we can discuss issues and work things out and that she will call for the next coffee meeting. Not as if she needs a friend - she got them, of course.
As a families, for any occasion we try to choose the day when it is good for all kids to be together( both step-daugters are of a similar age)
I am not sure whether it is her pregnancy, but the present I got from them it is just so not me, and it's looks like she have purposely done to unnoy me - I would have preffered to keep my present to her than hers to me( well, theirs). Whether my husband received a toletries set from Gucci, guess what is in my bag - slipers with a silky nighty from cheap shop -PRIMARK, jewellery set from Wallis - last spring stock ( obviously her's unwanted gift) and AVON bronzing kit (as if I need one - she obviously forgot that I mentioned to her that I already got one from Esteee Lauder). Last Xmas one of the present from her was a silver chain from Argos, which i also though it was her unwonted gift, as when I took it to exchange to the shop - they have stopped listin it! I would have preffered to hold on to YSL goldern compact (selection of shadows and glosses) and the book I gave to her. Now I understand how she manages to drive a Merceders CC - best for herself all the unwanted gifts to the somebody else - and I naively thought we could be firends! Now a remember that she 'forgot' to invite me to the 'stag night' trip to Spain as well or something, whether all the rest of our husbands female friends gone ( of cause I new them). Not as if I would go - I had a 8th month baby then - but then again, I was not invited!
I am pretty sure how I am going to keep myself with her from now on - friendly and proffessional, concetrating on myself and setting my own business. However, i would appreciate any advice on what my next present to her (her baby is due in February) should be. Also, do you think, should I get her something 'nice and cheerfull' from 'Primark' for the next Xmas as a direct reminder? Or shall I just keep myself tall and ignore her 'dirty' tricks and continue give presents, which I would like myself.
Thank You all for attention.