In my opinion the most dangerous part of having an affair is the lieing. When a person is married and having an affair, they are not only lieing to their DH and perhaps their children, but a lot of times to the OM/OW as well, and most importantly to THEMSELVES!

This was such a revelation to me. I truly believe the root of evil that exists in these affairs is all the lies. A single person such as myself who fell head over heels in love with my first love again even gets caught up in the lies. We fall into the fantasy of being in love again and begin to LIE to ourselves. I really believe it is all the lies that brings on the confusion, the heartache and pain. When you are married, you tell lie after lie to whomever so you can be with your lover.

Getting it right simply means saying NO to the continued lieing to everyone including and most importantly ourselves. Do all of you have thoughts on this subject? Do you wonder why God is brought up so much on this board? Ponder that.

Hugs to all and hope you are enjoying your Thursday.

GT