I am living with my boyfriend and his four kids. I am 30 and he is 41. His kids are 18,17,16,and 11. I have a 6yr old son. Anyway. The 17 yr old has Attention Defecite Disorder really bad and when he is not on his medication he causes alot of stress in the house. Besides that none of the three older kids ever want to help with house work. The 18 year old almost 19 goes to college 4 days a week for about an hour a day. She has no job. Always sits and watches tv. The 16 year old she just turned 16 complains about cleaning up and she stays out late and even spends the night with her 18 year old boyfriend whenever she wants. Anyway, my bf and I have had arrguments about this and he has asked me to be patient with this. That it will not always be like this. They will be gone soon. Well the rate it looks like none of them have jobs or wants to help with any-thing, so it may not end soon. And yes he has talked to them over and over about this but they are still doing the same things. It puts stress on our relationship and I have tried to be understanding to a point but it is very overwhelming and disapointing. I don't know how to handle this. What do I do? How can I help this situation? I don't see it changing and it has to. Can someone please suggest something?