My dad has always been the type to avoid crowds. He's always the first one out of the church building after services. When family would come visit while I was growing up, he'd go to his room and wouldn't come out until they were gone. But he has NEVER done what he did this weekend. I turned 27 yesterday. Mom started planning for my b-day late last week, asking me where I'd like to go for lunch (we were going to celebrate on Sunday), and telling my husband and I to invite as many friends as we'd like. Well with school and all, I hadn't gotten around to calling anyone yet by the time she called Saturday. She wanted to know if I'd like to do something on Monday nite. I have school and usually stay pretty late at nite during the week, so I told her I probably wouldn't be able to. I knew something was up, and I could tell she was upset. She said that my dad didn't want to do anything with a bunch of people, so I should go out with my friends on Sunday, and we'd do the family thing maybe the following weekend. Well, I was kind of stunned and hurt, but then I told her I hadn't invited anyone to go out with us yet, and I wouldn't if it was going to be a problem. 'No no, you invite your friends.' I told her it wasn't a big deal, let's just do the family thing on sunday like originally planned. I heard her tell dad that I hadn't invited anyone to go with us, and would he go out for my birthday on sunday. He threw a fit and told her to get out of the room. so she started crying, which made me want to cry. we finally decided to go out as a family and dad could go or not go, whatever he wanted to do. I invited my best friend (who has been to all my birthdays since 3rd grade) and her brother. Sunday rolled around, and after church, dad got up and left, didn't even look at me or say a word. We went out for lunch, went back to the house for cake & ice cream, and of course dad wasn't home (avoiding the massive crowd of friends i invited). Everyone left except my husband and me, and eventually dad found his way back to the house. He walked in and went straight to his room. That was the last I saw of him. Didn't say happy birthday or anything.
I saw mom today. She gave me an envelope with my name on it written in dad's handwriting. in it was a $1000 check to me from dad. Is it for my birthday? Mom told me a couple of months ago that they'd help me pay for a $1200 test I had to take in May. Maybe it's to help cover the exam fee? My husband and I are having money problems, but i've never asked dad for help, but is he trying to help us financially? At this point it's silly to speculate. I'm just really hurt and don't know what to think about this "gesture" (if that's what it is) from dad, and I'm not even sure I want to keep his money.