Another thing is I've never met the new wife! When they first got married I flat out refused to meet her. I was very uncomfortable with the whole idea. On one hand, I was happy for him to find someone to be with at this late stage in his life, I hated the thought of him living alone, but on the other hand I feel like he is using this new marriage to avoid getting closer to me and staying in touch with me. He's never been one to initiate a relationship, never expresses his feelings or his love very well, if at all, one big reason he and my mom divorced. I wasn't mean when I refused to meet her, I just simply wasn't ready, especially since they practically bombarded me w/emails at first, trying to make plans to meet. They started backing off a little but I would hear from him from time to time. Then when he was making plans to come to see me or my sister, she would conveniently not be able to make it- this happened on many occasions. First she was available every weekend, then suddenly was no where to be found?? It was very extreme, all very odd. Now I never hear from him at all.
I'm at the point where I need to make a decision, should I try calling him? I do have his phone # but feel weird calling out of the blue, especially if the wife answers! What would I say? What if I can't get back in touch with him, should I just move on? I don't want to give up on him. I think I'm at the point now, over a year later, to see him and meet his wife but he won't respond. What should I do?
Sorry this is long! Thanks for reading and letting me vent!