So, Cheryl, you need not read. LOL!!!!
Since you guys know that my oldest is switching to community college next year, a "funny" think happened last night. You are also aware that B's daughter doesn't give me the time of day, in between her visits. When she visits we usually enjoy ourselves.
So, B mentioned he hadn't seen his daughter since Christmas. We had issued an invitation for them to join us at the beach house for a few days, but she told me, they probably couldn't because of her DH's job. So B came to me, and asked about going to NYC to visit them, which I said was OK. A long weekend or something. Now B hates NYC, I love it. We always have to book rooms when we go there, because we are not invited to stay with them. So, I went to B and said "if tommy can't come, maybe we could give her our airmiles, so she could come to the beach at least".
Last night he offered to pay for airfare for both of them to come to the beach, that would be almost $1,000.00. Plus we would house them and feed them and be their transportation service. He offered this without discussing it with me. This for a girl who doesn't even acknowledge my existance. Hmmm...I guess when he told me, I was a bit shocked. I explained my offer to fly her using my airmiles was under that assumption that he was not coming, so she wouldn't drive alone. They do have a car. If both of them are coming, they can drive, just like my older son is doing with his friend. DUH!!! So B justified it, by saying we would be saving money by not going to NYC. Well, going to NYC wouldn't be expensive if they would open their house to us, but they don't.
I told B, if it's ok to give those kids $1,000 and a free vacation, then it's ok for me to pay for Ian's traveling expenses, isn't it? Like maybe I should give him $400 to cover the costs of driving down? And that way he can be saving his money for his tuition? It all seems logical to me, and B claims logic is the smart way to think. LOL!!!!!
It's all about treating all the kids equally.