Hi there! I've been lurking and and I have a question. Married men, is weight gain unattractive? Enough to affect your sex drive? My husband and I have been married for 13 years next month. Our sex drives differ, mine is higher than his and always has been. We tend to fall into this pattern where we have sex like newlyweds, and then dry periods where we'll go months without. I don't want to go into too many details about why, it's a bit of a touchy subject I don't think is fit for here, but I gained some weight about a year ago, a fairly significant amount (about 40 lbs). Since then, our sex life took a nose dive. We've been going months in between and I find myself so worried that he doesn't find my attractive, that I just can't enjoy it.
Now, my out look on myself has gone down, let's face it, I can't blame