Well, I just got rejected after making the first move for the first time in my life. I am only 18, but I am used to initiating a relationship/date because men often feel intrigued by me. Its been totaly cool, but this time the guy said that he isn't looking for a relationship right now. I know its not me and its good he didn't lead me on, but its still rejection. Its no big deal. The point of this discussion is - well... I was just wondering what you, other women, think about those ladies who ask men out on dates and such. I feel I may have hurt somebody. This one girl Amanda liked the guy I asked out, but she is shy and she may have been waiting for him to make a move, but now that I grabbed his attention away from her, she feels abandoned and continues to act friendly to me just because she's so sweet, but I think I'd win him back if i was her. What do you guys think about girls who make the moves? :) Thanks in advance. This is an interesting one...because men love it (thats what the lovely folks at iVillage say too)!!