Anyway, I've been friends with R. since I met my best friend & her boyfriend (now her husband of 10 years). We used to see each other at gatherings when we would both end up at our friends' house, and we were always happy to see each other. If that didn't happen, then we would ask about the other, "say hello for me", etc.
I moved away a couple years ago (it seems like forever) and while I was home over the summer, he had a party. My best friend, D. went with her family and mentioned that I would have been there, had I known about it. R. says he was sorry he missed me and that was that. We saw each other about a week before I left to come back here.
Fast forward to November. He called me out of the blue one night just to say hi. We talked for a few hours and then he called again that weekend. I went home at Christmas with the knowledge that I would be seeing him for a New Year's party that he had asked me to and a couple of times with some other friends. Then he said something about wanting to see me "just the 2 of us".
I think I spent more time with him than I did with my mom and best friend!
He still calls at least once/twice a week or emails me. He has mentioned spending time with me this summer when I go home.
I don't know what to think. He almost got married once (and I'm really glad he didn't and I told him that). I'm not looking for a relationship; I walked that road once and was really hurt by it. I just tell myself that he's NOT interested and that I should just take it for what it is: a guy paying attention to me and stop hiding from it and him.
Now that I have poured out my life story to you, any ideas on how to proceed? Do I need to open my big mouth or should I just let things lie as they are now?